Ideal first meeting location  

nastytease4U 39F  
11668 posts
2/11/2018 7:32 am

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Ideal first meeting location

Here is an interesting question, what do you think is the best place to meet someone that you have chatted with on Japanese While you are pondering the question, this would be a good time to post any meetings you have had, (good and bad)

My first meeting locals:

2 guys were invited over to our house
4 guys and one couple we met at a hotel room
1 couple we met at a dance club
a large number we met at a house party
coffee shop
movie theater
adult themed club or party
dance club
I have never met someone from AFF or similar site

maybejustrex4 51M  
1598 posts
2/11/2018 7:43 am

Back when Borders existed, getting a coffee there was a great first meet. In fact, on any given weekend night you could identify the guys waiting to meet someone new by the way they looked up every time the door opened.

listenharder 47M  
60 posts
2/11/2018 8:04 am

My default for any first meeting in almost any instance, not just here, is coffee shop. I'm always open to other suggestions.

It's a safe neutral location and if all else fails and the other person doesn't show, I had coffee therefore it's not a total loss.

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CleavageFan4U 61M  
50517 posts
2/11/2018 8:13 am

I've mostly met new ladies at local bar/restaurants, as the provide a nice place to chat and we don't need to worry if the discussions become a bit naughty.

Three favorite "meeting" memories, that don't follow the scenario above:

1. The VERY FIRST lady I ever met via A*F*F - It was a classic story of starts and stops / conflicting schedules. FINALLY one day she just told me to meet her at a local park. We did, and she immediately grabbed my hand and lead me down a walking trail. Very soon, she lead me off the trail, pulled out my cock, and sucked me off till I came, and gave me the "look I swallowed it all" view. I was "thinking - MAN, A*F*F is fun!!"

2. The third A*F*F lady I ever met just told me to get a room. She showed up and we were having sex within about 5 minutes.

3. A blogger lady I'd never met, invited me down to her ranch for a long weekend. For reasons STILL not clear to me, she told me to get a room at a local hotel for nights 1 + 2, after which we'd go stay at her ranch. The week before my visit was full of mutual speculation as to how long till we were nekkid after first meeting. I reset the clock a bit, but being nekkid when she showed up at the hotel room.

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Roargasm4more 34M/38F  
109 posts
2/11/2018 8:14 am

I prefer coffee or at a bar. It's too big of a safety concern to meet someone in a hotel room.

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Adultmindedguy 40M
5 posts
2/11/2018 8:27 am

Home worls best for me! Comfortable mot creepy and good place to fuck!!!

HollyChatsNJ 59T  
763 posts
2/11/2018 8:28 am

Living in a shore resort area. I have it very easy to meet people. I just use the boardwalk to meet face to face.

I've been on Japanese on and off for about 6 years. I used to meet all the time.

What I look for now is so different than what it once was so I don't meet like I once did.

If I was still in my old ways. There is a perfect adult club here in Atlantic City called RolePlay.

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cyclingfool 56M  
5532 posts
2/11/2018 8:36 am

Much like Cleavage fan, I met a few off the old AOL chat rooms. Mom's online was a good one. Had a few instant connections if you know what I mean..
But mostly coffee or lunch meetings to start out.
Met one woman with her husband and played golf with them. Great time. Still friends today.

69foxman3 45M  
88 posts
2/11/2018 8:43 am

Hope more ladies chime in.

virgindick086 34M
71 posts
2/11/2018 8:47 am


redrockrascal 59M
16338 posts
2/11/2018 9:10 am

I voted bar, but sports bars more specifically.

I've had about a dozen meets since I joined in 12/13. Most have ended up having sex in various places (hotel, park, their place, my place). Of those most led to multiple meetings. A couple became sort of regular things. A*F*Fs been good to me so far.

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Makeushake1 49M  
1 post
2/11/2018 9:14 am

I think that it is easier to meet in a public place that allows one on one interaction in order to establish expectations. Restaurants and coffee shops provides great environments with minimal distractions.

happytmes2 61M  
573 posts
2/11/2018 9:29 am

The first meet was at a restaurant bar. The second was at my home. Two more at Starbucks

AZBiGuy480 54M  
19 posts
2/11/2018 9:36 am

I have meet at a restaurant, bar, hotel, a party at a hotel, there house, and my house.

DoctorBooty 37M  
6059 posts
2/11/2018 10:04 am

I prefer to meet at a quieter bar the first time, after that a hotel is best.

funeye 31M
80 posts
2/11/2018 10:43 am

dance club.....

eager4unow 61M  
1347 posts
2/11/2018 2:17 pm

I voted "coffee shop" but could have voted restaurant, mall, home or theater just as well...

TravelingMan524 65M  
209 posts
2/11/2018 7:06 pm

Coffee shop, restaurant, or bar if she is shy.
Hotel of the chat has been hot or if in a hurry.

gooodloven2 64M
379 posts
2/11/2018 8:13 pm

parking lot in front of restaurant or bar or at a park it is easy to see a car , so what do you drive .

tnt6969694 64M
17 posts
2/11/2018 11:09 pm

I personally prefer the coffee shop as it offers a neutral - no pressure location.

quest4thrills00 52M/46F  
7 posts
2/12/2018 12:16 am

Most of the time we have met people at a restaurant. We did meet one guy at his hotel room.

AandP222 65M/64F
9 posts
2/12/2018 4:08 am

we've met at hotels,coffee shops,and at home,,,,what ever is most convenient,,,

barnacker 62M
22 posts
2/12/2018 4:53 am

Where you meet is entirely dependent upon the mood generated whilst chatting. I normally choose a discreet coffee shop, but recently met at my contacts home as it was obvious that we would be ripping each others clothes off within minutes.

16 posts
2/12/2018 10:06 am

House or Hotel would work best

fashionablegma 74F  
4357 posts
2/12/2018 10:33 am

Meet while out shopping,if I do not like,can get lost in crowds

submokey 63M/56F
10392 posts
2/12/2018 11:17 am

Always used to meet at a coffee shop, in public. Chat for awhile, to get a sense of them in person.

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huntersenpai666 29M
3 posts
2/12/2018 6:18 pm

bar, somewhere public, yet discreet.

914Teddybear 50M
18 posts
2/12/2018 7:29 pm

Anywhere in a public place the first time.

bard1155 35M  
3 posts
2/12/2018 8:00 pm

I voted mall, but that is because typically it gives options (food, movie, and general walking). Anywhere that is public and neutral is good. I want to make sure the person I am meeting is as comfortable as they can be. I mean, meeting someone for the first time in person is a stressful event in of itself. Why add additional stress with a place that implies expectations.

fadey66 54M
23 posts
2/12/2018 11:51 pm

You have a beautiful body and I have a beautiful and wonderful rod that can meet with some add friend thank you

bisexualcharle69 53M  
201 posts
2/13/2018 5:12 am

all though it is nice meeting people from these sites. the best place for the first time is a hotel that way they don't know where u live. if things don't workout

OldrHarleyGuy 66M  
157 posts
2/13/2018 7:07 am

For myself, it's a restaurant or bar if it's her preference. Am not into jumping into anything real quick and gives both time to find out more about each other. I've had those that were "meet greet and lets go"!, sorry, is just not my thing, it takes me a little while to warm up and want to know more about someone before all that happens. I don't need to know a person's whole life story either, but it helps me define if that person is a good probable match or not, just to chat awhile and be as open as possible. I guess in this day and age that makes me somewhat old fashioned, but hey, that's who I am..
As for meeting here on this site, yes, have had 4 meets from over the past 2 yrs, all of which began pretty well, but ended in disaster because of the untold stories and misleading information found after the first several dates and it wasn't on my part, thankfully to say.

Nawteebynature17 43F  
10 posts
2/13/2018 7:16 am

Meet and greets are the ideal meeting place. I have met many people from here at arranged M & Gs. It is a great opportunity to put names to faces and also takes the expectations away from the meetings. It is a social gathering so if we are attracted to one another we can take it further if we wish. If not, then we had a great time getting to know each other anyways.

aniceride 47M  
57 posts
2/13/2018 8:33 am

my first meetings are always in public to make sure there is comfort can write or talk to someone till your blue in the face but you never really know until you actually meetings are always under the pretense of not jumping into to bed after two minutes lol.

PCValley 63M
45 posts
2/13/2018 11:10 am

My preference is a park bench if I am not going to their home. Monitoring who is listening to a private conversation is important to me. Some coffee shops have audio surveillance (Dunkin' Donuts). A waitress or bartender doesn't need to know the details of my sexual life. I've tended bar, you hear a lot.

I have met in cars in the parking lot of a coffee shop.

hapamale 53M  
67 posts
2/13/2018 11:40 am

some kind of drink always help, even coffee.

Saranghae2 45F  
201 posts
2/13/2018 11:46 am

i won't meet anyone indoors. i just simply prefer meeting other ppl outdoors instead... usually at a park.

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dessertgarden 48F  
21 posts
2/13/2018 12:29 pm

My most favorite, still on-going, was at a local grocery store. Multi-tasking, it worked out wonderfully well I will forever look for avocados every time I step into a produce section!

camperdude_69 57M
1792 posts
2/13/2018 1:57 pm

I think a coffee shop... for first meeting

tyrantcapri 45M
6 posts
2/13/2018 2:53 pm

damn, anywhere where the clothes could be shed withing five minutes, I hate formal interactions, and I found the best way to get past that is with a good fuck, suddenly, its as if we've known each other for years.

Leegs2012 45M
25905 posts
2/13/2018 3:24 pm

Usually meet at Bars or Sex Partys

temptationplus58 59F  
988 posts
2/13/2018 6:26 pm

I always meet in a public place.. that's just a no brainer. Safety first.

slowrider136911 56M  
270 posts
2/13/2018 6:56 pm

I like a coffee shop. Quick and easy. If it's a single girl, I'll do lunch as well. Couple would be coffee or maybe a bar. Pretty much a safe public place. Lot of flakes out there!

Cpllooking6671 51M/46F  
8 posts
2/13/2018 7:23 pm

Our meets:
Wegman's cafefor coffee- 3 times all single guys
Dinner- 2 times with couples
Appetizers- 1 time couple, 1 single guy
Applebee's - 1 time couple

Pale_Guy 24M
49 posts
2/14/2018 1:46 am

Coffee shop or restaurant. I always meet people in public first.

joehardy60 55M
230 posts
2/14/2018 6:31 am

Coffee shop or sports bar. Can chat and see if you are compatible with the person. Always meet in public first for safety reasons. Also if they are no shows,and there are many, you can read the paper while eating breakfast or lunch, or watch a game on TV.

asslover9988 47M
59 posts
2/14/2018 8:50 am

hotels, bars , mall

ILickYou069 49M
26 posts
2/14/2018 10:00 am

I prefer to meet a lady from here at a facility like Starbucks, just in case I cant remember her name. That shop always has me covered name wise, lmfao and jk.

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WantUToWantMeToo 48M  
53 posts
2/14/2018 10:22 am

Safe, neutral and non threatening environment. At least you get a coffee if it doesn’t work out or she’s a no show. Lol

jimdestin6 49M
7 posts
2/14/2018 10:42 am

coffee shop is best can both walk away if it does not work out,

3rdwheel4u269 60M
6 posts
2/14/2018 10:55 am

Dunkik Donuts or Tim H. Just don't look at every one that cums in.......

JohnInNebraska 58M
41 posts
2/14/2018 11:04 am

I met a couple at a bar which worked out great, In regards to the question I believe the best place is at a coffee shop, bar or somewhere in the public is the best places to meet.

3 posts
2/14/2018 12:31 pm

for security reasons, I never at anyone homes or bars (no alcohol) ...I always meet in a more vanilla place like a coffee shop or somewhere where there are a lot of cameras and people. safety first.

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2Saltie2 61F
51 posts
2/14/2018 2:21 pm

In public. Never in his place or mine.

sexydad1167 50M  
1318 posts
2/14/2018 5:58 pm

Most I have met at my place Either talked for a while first or I made dinner or we went right to the bedroom. I have met some out at a restaurant. Or Her place,

sanots123 52M/52F  
20 posts
2/15/2018 2:37 am

Of course, we meet only at a public place - restaurant, coffee shop, bar, park - anything.
Only once in Bangkok, we were invited directly into a condo for a group setting ------------- AND BOY, we did enjoy ourselves.

Ltnoman42 52M
62 posts
2/15/2018 5:43 am

the beach


PVJowe 58M/55F  
97 posts
2/15/2018 9:19 am

After being on Japanese for almost 15yrs I most always will arrange a Meet N Greet at a Bar.. I went to this system after being stood up way to many times and I would be left there sitting alone.. So now I arrange for 3-6 guys to meet me at some watering hole.. Those that show up and impress me I will arrange a playdate with.. Works much better than just 1 on 1..

darkone305 33M
71 posts
2/15/2018 9:38 am

Any location is good as long it has been expressed what's to happen

fahiem2010 46M
7 posts
2/15/2018 1:19 pm

\8b if your meeting don't go well I'm in Orwigsburg let's me.

GIdontknow_134 60M
259 posts
2/15/2018 3:29 pm

Hi nasty:

I've met up with women (from online) at bars, restaurants, a pool hall, a coffee shop, a hotel, a mall, one woman's home, the home of a friend of a woman, Meet & Greets and probably a few other places that I'm forgetting. I think the most important thing is picking a place that satisfies her (and your) security needs. That tends to leave out meeting at your home.



_TheDude1 50M
2 posts
2/15/2018 7:10 pm

I like to meet in a dark alley.

nicelipss66 41F  
22087 posts
2/15/2018 7:24 pm

I say Coffee Shop. cause if things don't click. still ok cause it won't take too long. and both can go on their way after that. short and simple.

But I have to say that I have met several members from this site at my my place. that is because I have talk to them some much over the blogs and talk to them over the phone that I felt comfortable to do so. but I always let my roommate know when someone is going to visit, that way he knows just in case. and sometimes he is here in his room just to make sure. but so far every meeting has been very pleasant.

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playtoy484 54M
40 posts
2/16/2018 9:11 am

The ones i have met have been right in there own bedroom...

josemariajo 56M  
47 posts
2/16/2018 5:21 pm

mm wherever she want...tje mos important thing for me es to meet and get some sex...

EvelynJMN 58T
8 posts
2/16/2018 10:36 pm

Always try to make it a public venue - bar/restaurant usually.

jayandkayforfun 39M/37F
11 posts
2/16/2018 11:25 pm

as a single man i have met 2 Japanese couples at there homes one female was naked as i walked in and the other was fully dressed but not for long and as for now as a couple we have not got to that point of meeting yet so cant answer

wincardium 55F  
2 posts
2/17/2018 12:01 am

I prefer meeting people in public for the first time. There's a great local bar that's near me and perfect for meeting people. I also like coffee shops and of course, Starbucks.

While I have done it twice, I just don't think it's a good idea for a female to meet a man she's never met for the first time in a hotel room. But that's me. Love, love, love Japanese!

McDawger 45M
45 posts
2/17/2018 4:25 am

I love to meet at a hotel...and fuck right away😘

Bmanus465 65M
21 posts
2/17/2018 5:42 pm

My first meeting was in a parking lot in my car. She was very nervous as we went to a hotel room. We spent the time in the room with me kissing her and talking about what I would do to make her happy. We never had sex that da but for every week after that for two years I got a room and we fucked for four hours each time.

JXC2016 48M  
4 posts
2/17/2018 6:08 pm

I picked the last person up in front of her house and we drove to a hotel. I can't host so picking her up and going to a hotel or staying at her place is okay with me.

danielle_2000 44T  
6 posts
2/18/2018 4:57 am

Either a restaurant or coffee shop for me. People are always coming or going and cameras, but it is about preference too.

nekkedcouple 57M/51F  
24 posts
2/18/2018 6:23 am

We usually meet at a bar. There have been several times when the guy doesn’t show up or he does and doesn’t look like his pictures, so it’s safer and easier to meet in public.

But we were at a hotel out of town on the last evening of a business trip/vacation this past Friday and we invited a guy over that we had chatted with online. He had sex with my wife for quite a while and then he left. We made love afterwards. Very erotic.

TongueRyder 47F  
4 posts
2/18/2018 8:09 am

Always meet at a coffee shop that also happens to be near some hotels. First meet, we chatted for about a month before deciding to meet at the coffee shop. Once we met, we chatted more, liked what we saw and decided to head over to the hotel. He was already fingering my pussy while we were on the elevator and once in the room , he walked me over to the bed, bent me over and started eating my pussy from behind. Suffice it to say, we had a great time

One meet, was a guy who lived farther away. Again we chatted for about a month, decided to meet at a 1/2 way spot (park). Once we arrived, he came over to the drivers side, gave me a kiss and some flowers. We drove around in the park, me stroking his cock and he fingering my pussy until we decided to get a hotel room. Again, as soon as we entered the room, he led me to the bed, bent me over and started eating my pussy from behind, he was some of the best oral ever! 10 tongues up for him, LOL

poullaki1982 36M
12 posts
2/18/2018 2:43 pm

I met that woman from Japanese at a bar in Athens. But nothing more happened

sexybunny4love 48F
234 posts
2/18/2018 9:42 pm

Mostly at restaurants - dinner first , then if we click, mmmmmmmmm lol

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DiscreetAffairPA 41M
68 posts
2/19/2018 6:31 am

Any place public. First, it gives the woman more safety and security. Second, it gives either or both of you a way to back out easily if you're not comfortable.

CedarsPrince 38M
356 posts
2/19/2018 7:17 am

I usually prefer a restaurant or a coffee shop. It's a public place so everyone feels comfortable. You also get to know how the person is by the way they eat and treat the staff.

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fancy_legs 46F  
10 posts
2/19/2018 8:48 am

First meeting is a restaurant , somewhere that is public. Safe place. Try to get off the rush timing so you can actually hear the conversation without yelling over the sport bar places. Going to a restaurant gives you more time to have a conversation with that person. See if there is any interest or connection for anymore to follow.

oldman1973 69M/32F  
430 posts
2/19/2018 9:07 pm

We only ever meet others, Men, couples with bifems and single bifems or groups at our home, we enjoy a few days of uninterrupted sex fun every time

RealGuy4u101 54M
4 posts
2/19/2018 9:30 pm

It all depends

Wanderingw 45M  
2 posts
2/21/2018 12:22 am

Coffee shop, ease the tension and make sure safe. I have daughters and would not do to a date that i would want done to my kids. Besides if they do not show, coffee is great !

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