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Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
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Who messages who makes a difference. ..
Posted:Feb 19, 2018 9:54 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2018 8:00 pm

At least on dating sites like cupid!
And of course it depends on how hot or young she is..

According to the crunched numbers on the cupid site, it really depends on your age and the age bracket you message in order to increase your chances of a response.
Older women = over 40 (but some even say that it's 35)(don't like it, don't shoot the messenger).

I am sure many have been through the slow down of messages received from men or even views to your profile (yep, unless you are also looking for casual sex or men 12-20+ yrs older than you). It's no secret that many men prefer that younger age gap for relationships, and even just for sex.

But don't worry Older Women, according to the stats you don't have to settle for what's left over or have sex with much older men, you can target younger men and they are responding!

As some with a insatiable libido I have dated men younger than me ...well since I was 24. I stopped on that search a few ago because I wanted a stronger connection and the ability to explore other things. I already knew about man's preferences for younger because when I was in my 20's I always had men in thier 40's and 50's hitting on me. But I actually thought that I would find a compatible "age appropriate" man (started looking around when I turned 35)...lolol ollol yah I had big dreams alright.

Anyway, when my sex therapist recommended that I should just go back to "dating" younger men, I had to process all my experiences in the last 8 yrs and think them through (and I am still letting go on wanting more..).
Which most of my bad experiences came from dating in a certain age bracket.

So maybe cupid is right, , ... I should give up on my search for a meaningful connection and just look for pretty things instead.

::seeings how a younger man is more likely to respond than an older man.::
But it's still a work in progress, having to give up looking for something that I really wanted so I am still processing that mind track.
But maybe by the summer I will start looking for younger men and fly my cougar flag once again!

Undressed: What’s the Deal With the Age Gap in Relationships? Older men often date younger women, but every can benefit when the age gap is reversed. ~ cupid blogs.
Be nice, it's just common knowledge, the cupid site has a few good data sets if dating trends interest you. Its no secret that men prefer the age gap, esp for a much younger female partner.
Randomness for a monday
Posted:Feb 19, 2018 7:47 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2018 3:05 pm

Did I also mention that I am an INTJ, which is meaningless to many for various reasons, but I always come across references to personality types so as much as you dislike the term it is everywhere.

When creative meets analytical
Be less curious about people and more curious about ideas.” ~ Marie Curie

As an intuitive and judging person, an INTJ (especially in their younger ) may feel like they are constantly contradicting themselves, being passionate in their ideals and constantly thirsty for new ideas. At the same time they often feel a deep-seeded desire to convert their own internal chaos into order.

As natural-born strategists, it is very important to the INTJ that their understanding of the world is non-contradictory. This way they are free to use their knowledge to pursue creative solutions to complex problems.

Quite often, their desire for rationality causes them to see social relationships as problems to solve. This tendency can be frustrating for both the individual and the people around them. Although the INTJ might be perfectly capable of experiencing a wide range of emotions, they are not likely to express them in the “heat of the moment”, preferring instead to wait until they have had time to rationalize them in their own mind.

~ little miss flower: My mind sounds chaotic at times, but is all in due process that it will be sorted and categorized, as I search for answers....
Little advice from Men's Health... :)
Posted:Feb 18, 2018 9:29 pm
Last Updated:Feb 19, 2018 1:29 pm

Things can be a little less clear for the rest of us. While we hope that our partners are being open and honest with us, the majority of women are speeding things up with fauxgasms at least some of the time, says Dr. Kim Wallen, Ph.D., a Behavioral Neuroendocrinologist at Emory University.

Wallen has seen studies that suggest more than half of all women’s orgasms are fakes. “The average incidence of sex that results in orgasm in heterosexual women is 75 percent, but that includes all types of sex, including oral sex,” he says, adding that oral sex brought those numbers up because of clitoral stimulation.

So, science says, there may be room for improvement. And who better to guide us through the murky waters of the female orgasm than a male escort?

We asked a handful of straight male esc0rts, from the U.S. to Australia (where escorts-for-hire are legal), about what keeps their customers coming, and coming back.

1. Work on Your Massage Skills

Believe it or not, massage is the number one request made to male escorts; sometimes erotic, sometimes non-erotic. Either way, if your idea of a massage is an absent-minded back-scratching, you need to up your game. If you haven’t done it recently, get a massage from a professional therapist, just to remind yourself what’s involved in a really good one.

2. The Power of Kissing

Nothing turns on a woman more than a solid make-out session. Kissing is like the foreplay to foreplay. But when you’re trying to get past first base, keep the kisses coming. And coming. Gabriel Lamur, an Italian escort working in Sydney, Australia, told us that kisses should not be limited to a woman’s lips. “Kissing all the parts of her body is what most clients want,” he said. Kisses up and down her back, inside her thighs, the tips of her fingers: those are the turn-ons that will eventually take the sex up a notch.

3. Your Orgasm Isn’t the Main Attraction

Male escorts don’t go into a job expecting to orgasm. If it happens, it happens. But that’s not what he’s getting paid for, unless his client specifically requests it. The next time you have sex, try this approach. Take the spotlight off yourself and shift it to her. We’re not saying you can’t come; just don’t make it the priority. Focus solely on her climax.

4. Trim It Like a Porn Star

Grooming yourself down there demonstrates that you’re doing everything you can to look sexy for her. You may not get rock-hard abs or a tight ass overnight, but you can manscape in the shower. A few escorts we talked to recommended investing in a $50 Braun cruZer6 body trimmer, because it’s safe for everything inside your underwear.

5. Foreplay Matters

This should be obvious, but it’s worth repeating. Assuming a woman is paying for an escort’s minimum (usually two hours), and there won’t be a need for any pillow talk after the sex (because let’s face it, they’re strangers), that means at least an hour and a half of that time is foreplay. This paid-in-full foreplay is more about getting her ready that making sure the guy’s dick is hard. Think about that if you ever find yourself thinking, “10 minutes of foreplay should be fine.”

6. Match Her Game

If she’s talking dirty, then you should talk back dirty. If she’s quiet and shy, then follow her lead. escorts agree that the outcome is best for her if they pick up on her verbal cues and play along. (Unless she’s trying to live out some kind of sweet-shy-girl-meets-dominant-douche-bag fantasy, then have at it.)

7.  Match Her Kink

Say there is a spectrum of kink, and she’s on one end. You don’t want to be at the other end, even though it’s common for male escorts to have a very long list of oh-my-God-people-really-want-that services they’d provide if asked. Our panel of escorts agree that women tend to have a kink threshold—maybe handcuffs and anal play, but no more than that—so you have to make sure you don’t go past that. In other words, if she’s asking for the Boyfriend Experience, don’t give her the Christian Grey Experience.

8.  There's No “I” In "Sex"

You can come alone, but you can't have actual sex by yourself. It takes two. (And sometimes, more.) One American escort summed up the coupling experience with this: “It turns into a relationship,” he said, “even if it’s only for one night.” So think of every sexual encounter as time for the two of you to communicate, compromise, and come together. The sex isn't just part of a relationship. It can be its own relationship. And that's a lesson that will pay off beyond the bedroom.
Not your type (?)
Posted:Feb 14, 2018 3:44 pm
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2018 5:55 am

Sexy bloggers,
Let's see
I have been around dating sites long enough to have a pretty good feel about preferences, more specifically men's wording and his preferences when it comes to attraction.

When I read a profile and he states something along the lines of:
"Seeking hot/beautiful/attractive/sexy woman"
I pretty much just pass him by because experience has proven over again n again that he is 99% referring to conventionally attractive women.

My same experience applies to attractive/handsome men, generally they look for someone hotter then he is.

BUT... why don't (many) men believe me when I say that I'm not his type nor what he is looking for?
Do you not like the fact that you stated that you want attractive so that really does mean that you want attractive and I think most women have a pretty good grasp on where they stand on the "attraction scale" (#notallwomen) ...

So then he proceeds to make a big deal about not being "shallow" and that he's "open to everyone"! Pesters me into sharing a face pic........then he ghosts.
So much for not being shallow

Don't worry I am so used to it that I don't even bother trying. pays to know where you stand on the average scale. Lol. And yes the hookup guys are the worst when it comes to this, so don't believe it when they say men can get it up for a stiff breeze. I'm on a dating site that seems to have lots of attractive men on it, so I won't be meeting anyone soon on there.

So sexy bloggers,
Are you as open as you claim?
Do you get angry when she points it out that you want hot?
Or if she thinks she's hotter than she actually is?
(I think that's a catfish thing)
What about your preferences, set in age group and attractiveness?

(The younger she is the less hot she can be because yanno she's young)
Now I am not talking absolute troll material, just the average scale to hot.
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The kind of mood I'm in...
Posted:Feb 8, 2018 12:13 pm
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2018 7:21 pm

Yep winter is starting to drag on...cabin fever is setting in.
Insatiable again
Posted:Feb 5, 2018 1:17 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2018 11:10 am
Maybe it's the increase in daylight or just a deep seated longing for sex... but whichever it is ...
it has been taking over my thoughts, my dreams, and creeping in every chance it gets.
Definitely testing my will power now... I just want to orgasm so badly
I want to suck cock,
I want to feel it slide in nice n slow and deep,
The scent of sex in the air,
Wet squirty orgasms with a cock buried in my throat.... sigh
Feel his hands on my body, the heat, the urgency,

Thanks mind, you have such a vivid spank bank. 😍😍😍😍

Just to feel a hard cock in my hand, in my mouth, deep in my cunt.
I just want to masturbate to my little hearts content. Lol

Anyway, #theStruggle is real.
Sinday morning
Posted:Feb 4, 2018 8:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2018 8:01 am
A drizzly ice rainy day yesterday, hopefully today is much better weather in the badlands.

One of those mornings where I am craving bacon and pancakes but I need to get to work....
Sex would be great also. Lol.

But I will take my coffee on the road and grab a quick bite, I will cook a nice dinner tonight though.

Spring is on its way and the badlands are going from mud pit to ice rink all in one day. Yesterday I ended up soaked, so today I will remember a change of gear just in case I end up in the rain n snow again.

Enjoy your day sexy bloggers,
I'm still on a break from porn, sex, stimulation, so ya my thoughts are pretty boring. ... I really do wonder how low sex drive people get through thier day or even have a lust for life. Lol
Finally Friday...
Posted:Jan 26, 2018 12:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2018 7:22 am

So the vagina is winning the battle right now. Lol.
Due to some health issues I needed to temper my libido way back since sept.

Let's talk about dreams so wet....
Back up a bit,

In the middle of the night my libido decided "well fuck she's sleeping, so let's do this!"... and I remember partially waking up to a very wet vag and cum all over my thighs.
Lol so wet that I took my top off and just put it between my thighs then fell asleep. Of course waking up in the morning with no top on was like..
.. what the heck happened
Then it slowly came back through the brain fog and I had to laugh.

...I just wish I could re what my dreams where masturbating to!

And then,
I think my body is fighting back, working it's way to being healthy again!
Especially the ladybits.

Soon enough I will be able to explore sex ... well that's if I find some. Lol

But masturbation will be on this rise, slowly but surely.

Its Friday but I get to work sat.
The weather is great today!

Sexy bloggers,
Wet dreams and erotic moments that flit through your mind,
Can you always re what gave you that tingly feeling?
Sinday in another city
Posted:Jan 21, 2018 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2018 7:23 am
Well, actually I have been in Vancouver since Thursday

So my sinday is processing a weekend of kink, fetish, bdsm and sex positivity.
I had forgotten what it's like to be around people that are open and friendly, that don't (openly) judge others, that all legal ages are welcome.
I didn't actually chat with many new faces, being single and living in my city there are not very many opportunities to chat with strangers, so I mainly observed others. Which people watching is completely fine for me.

I have definitely noticed how spending too much time on sex negative sites like dating sites has affected my view of men. But then I don't find anonymous hookups to be sex positive as it seems enforce a selfish attitude with sex.
I saved up for this event so I had money to spend on things that I wanted. So I'm excited for my new fun things and a great new corset. Lol ya ya I get it, why buy sexy things when single. ...well I like how it makes me feel.

At least this trip reminded my how much is out there in terms of exploration and sexploration! I was beginning to think it was "just me" because of the amount of negative feedback I get from the dating site. I am reminded that people can find their desires and find people that are not emotionally closed off. They can find that freedom of expression. .. which this trip was also a test of sex therapy. it should help with processing the importance of sex in my life, yep even at my advanced age I still have a libido (which is currently hibernating due to some very tough mental work)...but once I start to wake it up then I better have a plan in place to deal with it.

Anyway, I am super stoked about my new corset, plus 3 new books, 7 lengths of jute.

Sexy bloggers,
How was your weekend?
Sinday eve
Posted:Jan 7, 2018 4:17 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2018 9:41 pm
Ever have those moments,
you know the one...
where you think back with a smile and a flush of butterflies

Or that tingle, or that deep lustful ache
Do you recall that last stroke,
that tender touch,
the one lick...
that gave you that wonderful feeling, like you are the only two people...

The firm grip, the gentle tease
that fire in the kiss...

Hmm, those moments to be savored,
to ponder about,
the search to find it again.

Holidays are almost over,
Just sitting here doing the last of domestic duties for the week...
Just thinkin about lovers gone.

Sexy bloggers,
Make good use of these chilly nights.
Is the world still flat?
Posted:Dec 29, 2017 10:17 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2018 8:00 am

Good morning sexy bloggers,

Its almost a New Year!! ya!!
But then everyday is a new day and a new start on life.

So I had a good laugh the other day when a few guys tried to troll me for having adult toys. IS the world still flat?? Are your insecurities that consuming that you project your fears onto others.
I made a semi-sarcastic comment to a male blogger that opened with:
"if I were a woman" I would use this vibrating tooth brush!"
::insert winky face, school boy chuckle and rib poking to his buddies that are all blushing beside him..:: (fyi adult male in his 40's)

My response was that I have a fine selection of high end toys, why would I use a germ covered toothbrush.
::insert Innocent Flower, clutching my pearls (not pearl necklace) and looking bashful..:: ffsss ya I didn't buy that either. LOL!

Of course the volley of hurt comes to light and the subsequent battle cry of:
"THATS why women don't need men!!"
(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

My fav response was:
"@flower that explains everything"
(explains what I don't know, maybe bec I have a high sex drive and enjoy orgasms, or that I'm single but that also means I haven't found any with a matching libido... Pleeeassse boy explain what you mean by your statement!? ".)

WAIT wut?!
Why wouldn't I want a man/partner to share lifes greatest pleasure with??
Ahem...cough cough
Its not the tool that brings the pleasure its the lover.

(now did you u'all learn something just then?)

Anyway, nice attempt at trolling me, but within full Flower mode I kindly reminded them about RealDolls and fleshlights, about the desensitization that the porn death grip can bring... How real ED is becoming for younger men because of their expectations around what a pussy should feel like and what it is actually like.
... (rarely will you find that can match the strength of your own hand..just sayin,, and I do 100's of pelvic floor exercises a day and can squeeze a finger - but I will never match a mans hand for strength)... (ok now I am sad that I am being replaced by a Hand!! oohh what will become of me besides withering into a dried up Flower! Men don't need wimmens because he has gasp 2 hands!!) Sounds silly doesn't it.

The struggle is real on both sides of the gender divides, you just have to find others that match your demons not your angels.

So sexy bloggers shall I write on porn death grip and the no fap movement, or write about how people are now talking about the slow sex movement and dating, what about having a healthy view of sex and masturbation. How about the fact that more and more people are missing intimacy and touch in their lives bec they have fallen so far into "independence" and the hookup culture ...many are forgetting how to interact with others in real life and they want porn to be life.
Wait, how about "STOP all this hate on the other sex".

I love sex, and I am sure you enjoy it too, I much prefer sex with some but I also see no shame in masturbating at healthy levels.
(sorry to exclude the asexuals, but I am a sexual being and this is my writing)

Ok..shyt... can some me down from this soapbox??

Sexy bloggers,
Are you intimidated by toys?
Have you explored with either his, hers, or both?

What is stopping you from being a little adventurous? or at least having an orgasm from a little extra stimulation?

(yep I get it not all women need toys, some can get off with just fingers or a light breeze..lucky ducks. )

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