Lame Excuses  

Granny872 66F  
70 posts
10/11/2018 4:20 pm
Lame Excuses


It's a shame when people pass up a perfect opportunity to meet someone for a suspiciously lame excuse. I do not want a 'hookup' but I will meet someone as an intro to find out if it's worth moving forward for more ...

Case in point: Date set to meet someone for a drink tomorrow after a business meeting. The urging for a casual meetup was his idea all along, just to 'get to know each other.' Reminders by text, from him, for several weeks of the 'big day.'

He texts me today ... 'you know what tomorrow is' ...

I accidentally left my phone at home today, but responded tonight after work... and then he says ... 'slight dilemma...scheduled family get-together conflict...i've known about it but forgot.' Instead, he thought we could squeeze in a drink before he had to rush off to the family thing. **eyeroll**

Really? You are a self-proclaimed 'I've got this covered' kind of guy in business and life, and you 'forgot' a pre-planned family outing that just happens to be the same night as our date? mmhmmm

People, people, people ... are you trying to kid me or are you kidding yourself?

While this may be typical of the dating population, or maybe just typical of this site, it's sad, really sad.

I would say it was a coincidence, but this happens far more frequently to me than I care to admit. When this is the norm for social behavior, it's no wonder so many people are alone and dateless ...

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


pocogato12 66F  
22779 posts
10/11/2018 4:39 pm

I seems that the "norm" for social behavior has slid way down the tubes.
I would not expect that of someone over 50- more like the lower ages as they are all into instant contact with phone /text/etc. and cant be bothered recalling the big necessary life events. His action is at best deplorable and a definite "block" in my opinion

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Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 4:44 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I seems that the "norm" for social behavior has slid way down the tubes.
    I would not expect that of someone over 50- more like the lower ages as they are all into instant contact with phone /text/etc. and cant be bothered recalling the big necessary life events. His action is at best deplorable and a definite "block" in my opinion
You nailed it ... noone needs to have their time wasted. "Next!"

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


funsnellvillecpl 61M/49F  
826 posts
10/11/2018 4:50 pm

we had a cpl pursue us for a yr , we agreed to take a nice drive and meet them 130 miles each way and they stood us up , we wont do that again.


benard69 63M/63F  
3623 posts
10/11/2018 4:57 pm

Thinking the asshole forgot he was married...


Wonder167 51F  
463 posts
10/11/2018 4:57 pm

That's awful, to be stood up. I hate to play decvil's advocate, but could he have forgotten? Or are we so prone to disappointment, we don't allow for error? I'm not taking sides at all, but I'm soon to be 51 and am horrible with appts. Yet, I don't claim to have my shit together either...

As they say, "their loss"


positively4you 69F  
2851 posts
10/11/2018 5:08 pm

We all have a calendar on our phones. I put all things I plan to do on that calendar. It sends me reminder alerts. So, that forgot crap just fails the smell test. I bet if you told him you would be at so and so hotel, room #69, he would be there in a flash. They are so transparent.


sphxdiver 68M  
20252 posts
10/11/2018 5:25 pm

Sorry, but that seems to be the norm for a lot of people on this site.


TokenBlackChik 32F  
8 posts
10/11/2018 5:27 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    We all have a calendar on our phones. I put all things I plan to do on that calendar. It sends me reminder alerts. So, that forgot crap just fails the smell test. I bet if you told him you would be at so and so hotel, room #69, he would be there in a flash. They are so transparent.
You are so right about that! I can't tell you how many times guys have "forgotten" about other crap only to have them say we can still meet at their place... At 11pm... The same night they stood me up. That or they can come to my place at that same hour. So I agree to my place and give them the address next door to a police station.

One good turn deserves another XD


TB5758 60M/61F  
411 posts
10/11/2018 5:31 pm

We like threesomes, MFM. In one week we had three "meet and greets" set up after work. We rushed out of work and then 45 minutes to 30 minutes before the meeting each one of these "gentlemen" unfortunately were called out of town on business suddenly. Very insulting really. Apparently we had actually caused an epidemic! In any event it really meant they had a better offer. We don't meet during the week any more and have learned the game. I am sorry that happened to you.


LakeRidgeBBWSeek 58M
2705 posts
10/11/2018 5:50 pm

As a single male, I have had this happen so many times I have lost count. But the 2 that come to mind was the dinner date that SHE left 3/4 way thru, at a restaurant of HER choosing, that took me 2 weeks to get a reservation, because she had a family event she had to be at 1 hour after the time SHE chose for us to have dinner. AND the drink date, where before I had even recieved my 1st drink, at the bar no less, she suddenly had to leave to help a friend with a flat tire & no spare, AND refused my offer of help in the situation. At least in both cases I got to meet the woman tho.
The opposite was a woman that I made a date with, whom we went to the wrong restaurant, her to one, me to another, and we had to reconnect thru her mother's home phone, as the lady didnt have a cell, we finally met, 2 hours later, at a 3rd restaurant, which turned out to be closed ! And still, she was willing to make a further date with me, and that progressed to a cpl of year FWBs situation !


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 5:58 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    We all have a calendar on our phones. I put all things I plan to do on that calendar. It sends me reminder alerts. So, that forgot crap just fails the smell test. I bet if you told him you would be at so and so hotel, room #69, he would be there in a flash. They are so transparent.
Exactly!

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 6:04 pm

    Quoting funsnellvillecpl:
    we had a cpl pursue us for a yr , we agreed to take a nice drive and meet them 130 miles each way and they stood us up , we wont do that again.
Bastages!!!

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 6:06 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    Thinking the asshole forgot he was married...
Hope she refuses him tonite lmao

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


papis_baby_girl 42F  
4337 posts
10/11/2018 7:09 pm

if it was important to him, he would have made it happen. End of story. Period.

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Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 7:10 pm

    Quoting Wonder167:
    That's awful, to be stood up. I hate to play decvil's advocate, but could he have forgotten? Or are we so prone to disappointment, we don't allow for error? I'm not taking sides at all, but I'm soon to be 51 and am horrible with appts. Yet, I don't claim to have my shit together either...

    As they say, "their loss"
Well, as I said, he claimed to have 'forgotten.' My guess is that he had a hidden agenda all along (so typical) or just got cold feet.

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 7:12 pm

    Quoting funsnellvillecpl:
    we had a cpl pursue us for a yr , we agreed to take a nice drive and meet them 130 miles each way and they stood us up , we wont do that again.
Yeah, that's a PIA. I have done my share of half-way driving, only to be sorely disappointed, but at least the other party showed up.

When they don't, I feel a combination of irritation, disappointment and finally, disgust.

Lesson learned, eh?

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 7:14 pm

    Quoting sphxdiver:
    Sorry, but that seems to be the norm for a lot of people on this site.
Yes, and isn't that the shame of it all? And from a woman's perspective, to read so many men write about "women don't want to meet."

So when we do agree to meet ... this is the result. **shakes head**

Onward and upward!

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


fashionablegma 75F  
5193 posts
10/11/2018 8:50 pm

Well if he planned his business life like his personal life then he be out of work,yes I can feel your hurt,as I have been in that situation too many times,i seem to pick the wrong guy,i may given him a second chance but that is it,


Granny872 66F  
59 posts
10/11/2018 9:47 pm

    Quoting papis_baby_girl:
    if it was important to him, he would have made it happen. End of story. Period.
You are exactly right, and he made that quite evident.

The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar


Yours_4A_knight 53M  
969 posts
10/11/2018 11:24 pm

The good news about not being worth the time of the women in my area to meet(or even human enough to deserve a reply) is that I never have to worry about getting stood up

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


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