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10/15/2018 5:41 pm |
hate being ghosted on here. a simple 'no thanks' or 'sorry, not interested' would suffice
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10/15/2018 5:50 pm |
a simple I met someone else would be nice too
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10/15/2018 5:56 pm |
It seems to be the new norm online. I've been on the net since the early 70's, long before the WWW made it available to the general public. That was in the military. Then in the mid 80's I often posted stories on USENET and met people on various group sites. Back then people were almost all who they said they were. Maybe when you met them in person they weren't as you imagined them but they were who they said they were. But since the WWW, that began to erode. But I think in the last 10yrs it has escalated. I don't mean to be a cynic but I no take all online contacts with a grain of salt. Yes, I still hate getting ghosted but I'm not surprised when it happens. I guess its the new wild west. People are liars and have no respect of others. Sad but true.
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It's my experience only a few men appreciate "no thanks" ... Honesty usually gets me a nasty reply or harassment because people don't take rejection well. Ghosting isn't how I want to conduct myself but it's easier than the alternative.
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10/15/2018 7:22 pm |
It means, "I don't wanna say it(and I won't say it), but No". People also ghost because they're ashamed to say No. It's emotionally confrontational and they try to avoid it. Seand the pursuit of it) leaves people vulnerable. It puts their egos on the line. Men often express the emotion of rejection by anger (boys are taught not to cry). Women often express it by avoiding and withdrawing.
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10/15/2018 7:32 pm |
It happens to us sometimes. I guess we just move on to the next one. Some people like to talk in the beginning but then get scared, I guess, when you offer to meet them off line. "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety" Shakespeare
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10/17/2018 1:01 pm |
I think in some, perhaps many, cases it's a loss of nerve and it's easier to back out by disappearing than to send some sort of message conveying your spinelessness or lack of interest.
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10/21/2018 7:52 am |
Yes, you took my comment wrong.
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