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Sex With a Domme... Way More Fun Than Toast and Jam 😊  

Paulxx001 66M
8702 posts
3/21/2019 4:51 pm

Last Read:
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Sex With a Domme... Way More Fun Than Toast and Jam 😊

Note: A F F website issues have resulted in dropped and chopped words. Please be patient.
This is Lynn's story...

It was late. Paul turned the key and opened the door. The wedding reception, had dragged on longer, than we both expected. It was fun, but I was relieved, to finally... be home. Paul and I, walked into the bedroom. I flipped on the lights. I was tired and sat down in the grey armchair, by the dresser. He looked at me, with those hazel, moon shaped eyes of his. I knew, what he wanted.

" on Lynn. Get undressed. Close the lights and let's go t.o bed."

"No Paul. not in the mood."

He ignored my remark, flung his clothes on his chair and stood there... naked. I looked him and didn't move.... I simply smiled. I was still wearing, my black dress and heels. My thighs shimmered in the brightly lit room: silky sheer nylons, will create effect. Slowly... I crossed my legs. One foot, waved leisurely... and down.

I watched him. Paul had already begun to want . Anyone could tell, by the way it bounced , attention. I stared... mesmerized and amused, as it grew, in little jiggles. A penis... is sooo, interesting to watch, isn't it?

I stood and walked towards him. He probably expected a kiss. I touched him, stood back and admired his body. He shivered and looked a.t m.e , helpless and confused. His breathing rose , in pitch, as I touched him again... and then again. Standing back, I looked on, as it ... throbbed.

I smiled. I could touch Paul anywhere. He tried to touch m.e, but I pushed him away. Paul stood there and said nothing. I approached him, once more. He anticipated my hands and leaned his hips forward. My fingers, wandered lightly... where I knew... he wanted them to be. Paul... had no fucking shame! It was so ; the way he shyly stroked himself... in front of m.e.

"No... no... Paul! Keep your hands away from yourself! Leave them by your sides! " And... he obeyed m.e.

I circled him. My heels brushed the carpeted floor. Then I touched him again. He moaned and his hard cock, bounced for m.e. Precum dripped and hung from the tip, like a tiny, tear drop. I slid my fingers, across the wet head... and squeezed. I watched as his cock twitched, to the beat of his heart. Paul closed his eyes and gasped.

Then... I sat back down, in my armchair. I listened to him breathe... with the quick stuttered, helplessness... of a hungry puppy. I glanced into his eyes and held them, in my gaze.

" not ready to get undressed yet Paul... I'll tell you when I a.m. Show m.e more. over here. I want to p.lay with you."

Obediently, he walked over to . This was, such an easy game to . He'd given total, control to . He wanted to dominate him. Paul would do anything, I asked. All for the sake of relieving, the throbbing ache, between his legs. His bewildered gaze, held back a question; "What was I thinking?"

"It's going to be a while, before I let you Paul. "

I was, in complete control of him. It was a deliciously, powerful feeling. I smiled, as I admired my efforts. His wet... twitching dick... strained, as it begged, for my gentle touch. Yet it was his compliant eyes - were truly, my reward. I reached with my fingers. My nails traced a path, his thighs and across his stomach. Paul shivered for again.

It was time... for us to p.lay.


........................................................
So...
Who takes the lead in your relationships, or do you take turns?
Are you a Domme/Dom or a sub?

These questions might be too difficult to answer. No worries... Here's an EASY one.
Do you like toasted white bread
🍞 and jam? ðŸ˜ķ

*NOTE : This site has been dropping and deleting words. If you see errors, please be patient. . .
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Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 4:52 pm

Who takes the lead?
I don't currently have, a long term relationship. But as I recall... in the past... I have split it with my partner.
Recently, it's been the right hand. And for those exotic nights.. it's been the left. 😊✋


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 4:52 pm

When it comes to this story though... I deffinitely tripped out on being a sub...I can really enjoy that.
Then.. there are nights, where I want to be, the Dom.. Either way... it is hot! ðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”Ĩ


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
3/21/2019 5:21 pm

You had to delete and redo again? I'm sorry.

I'm taking the easy question .... I like toasted white bread but not with jam. Apple butter. Peanut butter. Cinnamon and sugar. Honey. Not jam.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 5:36 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    You had to delete and redo again? I'm sorry.

    I'm taking the easy question .... I like toasted white bread but not with jam. Apple butter. Peanut butter. Cinnamon and sugar. Honey. Not jam.
Hey... I know you... How ya doin girl? 😘
I didn't know that you stayed up past 8 . How's it going?
I'm trying something different... Thought I'd hit a different crowd... and A F F messed with me. So..... What do we do now?... Where's the buffet? ðŸĪ”😁


Mikewith10in 41M

3/21/2019 6:21 pm

Fuck im so horny from this i need a domme


SeaGirlFL 60F
9220 posts
3/21/2019 6:36 pm

Sometimes, I like to lead...sometimes, I like to be led.

Toasted white bread? Maybe if it were sourdough. Then, with just a tad bit of butter, no jam.

"Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 6:56 pm

    Quoting Mikewith10in:
    Fuck im so horny from this i need a domme
That whole Domme trip is a lot of fun. Best of luck. Drop by any time... 👍


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 7:00 pm

    Quoting SeaGirlFL:
    Sometimes, I like to lead...sometimes, I like to be led.

    Toasted white bread? Maybe if it were sourdough. Then, with just a tad bit of butter, no jam.
Yes... it's fun to change places and switch things up... 😏
I'm not a huge white bread guy... Give me the more exotic types.... In fact sourdough sounds like a great idea. 👍😊


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/21/2019 8:28 pm

I like it when either us are comfortable taking the lead. The scenario described (and more) is one I have enjoyed and would love to do again. Hmmm - wonder how I can make that happen?
Toasted white bread? Heck No! Multi-grain is my preference with strawberry jam or peanut butter or just butter.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/21/2019 8:53 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    I like it when either us are comfortable taking the lead. The scenario described (and more) is one I have enjoyed and would love to do again. Hmmm - wonder how I can make that happen?
    Toasted white bread? Heck No! Multi-grain is my preference with strawberry jam or peanut butter or just butter.
That bread Q was just a joke. I'm more interested in that other thing you said. You've done that before.... Eeeeeee..... ðŸ˜ąðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”Ĩ Hmmm. Well.. I don't know what to say about that. I'd be happy to listen to you telling me what to do.
Would you be gentle? ðŸ˜˜ðŸ˜ąðŸ˜Š


lust4life59 65F  
2552 posts
3/22/2019 2:24 am

With my late husband, I was definitely sexually submissive, all the time. But I do like swtiching it up now, as long as we switch. I love that rush of having someone under my control, although I don't see myself as wanting to be in control ALL the tiime, or even most of the time.

I'll take any kind of toast with no carbs and jam with no sugar.....Is there such a thing? .Doing a low carb diet right now and you just made me hungry.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 3:13 am

    Quoting  :

Hi... This story was a complete flop, when I posted it at 4 AM, so I thought I'd try posting it later, at 7 PM, to see if the night crowd, would be more appreciative. Nope... Lowest comments, in a year!
So I came to the conclusion that people are intimidated by Domme stories. Except for you of course... 😘âĪïļ
Yeah... I think I'll be posting recipes for peanut butter and jam sandwiches next. It's a safer topic for some people here.
Sure ... It's a sex site.. Just don't post too much sex for the bloggers gentle eyes ... You don't want to scare blog ville residents. Right? lol... ðŸ˜ą
I find the more sex in my stories, the less interest I get. Really annoying. Your stories do great! I don't really get it. Is it scary to read a Domme story? ðŸ“–ðŸ˜ą Thanks for popping in. You're one of the few people, who always come in here! âĪïļðŸ˜˜


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 3:21 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    With my late husband, I was definitely sexually submissive, all the time. But I do like swtiching it up now, as long as we switch. I love that rush of having someone under my control, although I don't see myself as wanting to be in control ALL the tiime, or even most of the time.

    I'll take any kind of toast with no carbs and jam with no sugar.....Is there such a thing? .Doing a low carb diet right now and you just made me hungry.
It is a rush to be in control, isn't it? I'll admit that it's a rush for me, to be under someone's control. 😊 Do we have a fit? ðŸĪ” 😘 I'd listen to you... and wait... ðŸĪ—
That bread question was sort of a joke. I find that the more erotic and provocative, my story, the less, people are inclined to comment.. At least some people.
I'm wondering... Was a story about a Domme (this was a baby vanilla event) really that intimidating? ðŸ˜ą
Not for you, right? Thanks for popping in! 😘


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 3:28 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    With my late husband, I was definitely sexually submissive, all the time. But I do like swtiching it up now, as long as we switch. I love that rush of having someone under my control, although I don't see myself as wanting to be in control ALL the tiime, or even most of the time.

    I'll take any kind of toast with no carbs and jam with no sugar.....Is there such a thing? .Doing a low carb diet right now and you just made me hungry.
... Just wanted to let you know...
I'm on my phone 90 % of the time when I'm here on A F F, and I guess I swiped something, I shouldn't have. I accidentally stopped watching you... Sorry. 🙏😊
ALL your posts are great. That one about - wants and needs was a good one!
I'll be more careful... 😘âĪïļ Happy Friday! 👍


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 3:33 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    You had to delete and redo again? I'm sorry.

    I'm taking the easy question .... I like toasted white bread but not with jam. Apple butter. Peanut butter. Cinnamon and sugar. Honey. Not jam.
I have a question...ðŸĪ”
The more erotic my stories, the fewer the comments and feedback. This story? Least feedback in a year. Are stories about "Dommes" that scary for blog ville residents? ðŸ˜ą
Except for you and a few others.... No one visited.
I mean... this was a "baby vanilla Domme story" . What gives?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 3:37 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    I like it when either us are comfortable taking the lead. The scenario described (and more) is one I have enjoyed and would love to do again. Hmmm - wonder how I can make that happen?
    Toasted white bread? Heck No! Multi-grain is my preference with strawberry jam or peanut butter or just butter.
I'm keeping this post, and putting that other one to bed. 😊
So...? You've done this before? Sounds like you have some experience... omg ðŸ˜ą
OK... I'd listen to you... So you enjoy being in control? Would I have to be tied up? ðŸ˜ķ


lust4life59 65F  
2552 posts
3/22/2019 4:20 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    It is a rush to be in control, isn't it? I'll admit that it's a rush for me, to be under someone's control. 😊 Do we have a fit? ðŸĪ” 😘 I'd listen to you... and wait... ðŸĪ—
    That bread question was sort of a joke. I find that the more erotic and provocative, my story, the less, people are inclined to comment.. At least some people.
    I'm wondering... Was a story about a Domme (this was a baby vanilla event) really that intimidating? ðŸ˜ą
    Not for you, right? Thanks for popping in! 😘
Actually it wasn't intimidating at all to me. More like inspiring. As long as the two people are on the same page,, and it happens organically, the unexpectdness of the switch can be pretty erotic in itself.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 4:32 am

    Quoting lust4life59:
    Actually it wasn't intimidating at all to me. More like inspiring. As long as the two people are on the same page,, and it happens organically, the unexpectdness of the switch can be pretty erotic in itself.
Hmmm. I didn't think it should have been intimidating either. I think your open mindedness is an asset in your favour! 👍
Have a great Friday... 😘😊


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
3/22/2019 5:44 am

I'm probably not the person to ask about the success or failure of a D/s post. I am toasted white bread - metaphorically speaking.

I can tell you that time of day makes a difference. Titles make a difference. The questions you ask make a difference.

Of course, it's possible, that the story stimulated some hand action other than fingers on keyboard.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 6:01 am

    Quoting  :

I've tried both as well. There is something wild, when a woman is in charge.... If you ever get that chance - "take it. lol ðŸ˜ąðŸ‘
Have a great Friday!


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 6:18 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I'm probably not the person to ask about the success or failure of a D/s post. I am toasted white bread - metaphorically speaking.

    I can tell you that time of day makes a difference. Titles make a difference. The questions you ask make a difference.

    Of course, it's possible, that the story stimulated some hand action other than fingers on keyboard.
You're funny and cute... 😘😂
Well I tried it at 4am, my usual time. Fail.
Reposted at 7:30 pm with a new title... Fail...
I guess I'll post a meatloaf recipe next time..
or just keep plowing on with whatever turns me on.
I'd let you be the Domme... ðŸ˜ą
But then it's my turn to play with you... ðŸ˜ĩ😘


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/22/2019 6:22 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I'm keeping this post, and putting that other one to bed. 😊
    So...? You've done this before? Sounds like you have some experience... omg ðŸ˜ą
    OK... I'd listen to you... So you enjoy being in control? Would I have to be tied up? ðŸ˜ķ
Yes I have had experience on either side of the D/S roles. Being 'in control' in the bedroom is not a natural fit for me (except when giving a blowjob) despite my enjoying initiating. An important part of a healthy sexual relationship is knowing each other's boundaries and discussing comfortable ways to expand them. If you wanted to be tied up, I would be happy to do so. Where are the silk scarves and handcuffs?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/22/2019 6:27 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    That bread Q was just a joke. I'm more interested in that other thing you said. You've done that before.... Eeeeeee..... ðŸ˜ąðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”ĨðŸ”Ĩ Hmmm. Well.. I don't know what to say about that. I'd be happy to listen to you telling me what to do.
    Would you be gentle? ðŸ˜˜ðŸ˜ąðŸ˜Š
For me, it's all about being gentle as a receiver and a giver. Edging is one way to do that.
By the way...I don't know why this post seems to have intimidated so many. Perhaps the word Domme implied something much more hardcore and it scared them off. They should have at least read the story to see there was nothing scary in it. They probably would have enjoyed it and been inspired.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 6:38 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Yes I have had experience on either side of the D/S roles. Being 'in control' in the bedroom is not a natural fit for me (except when giving a blowjob) despite my enjoying initiating. An important part of a healthy sexual relationship is knowing each other's boundaries and discussing comfortable ways to expand them. If you wanted to be tied up, I would be happy to do so. Where are the silk scarves and handcuffs?
I've been on the Dom and sub side of things. I really enjoy both sides. It certainly inspires a tingling in my brain. You'd be gentle, right? ðŸ˜ąðŸ˜˜
My safe word is "monkey" 🐒


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 6:42 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    For me, it's all about being gentle as a receiver and a giver. Edging is one way to do that.
    By the way...I don't know why this post seems to have intimidated so many. Perhaps the word Domme implied something much more hardcore and it scared them off. They should have at least read the story to see there was nothing scary in it. They probably would have enjoyed it and been inspired.
I tried posting this story at 2 different times with 2 different titles... FAIL on both attempts. ðŸĪ”
So perhaps blog ville residents are not really as sexed up as they pretend to be? hmmm.. ðŸ˜ķ
I mean this story is hot.... ðŸ”Ĩ
I'm not going to soften things up. It's a story about a Domme. I've concluded that I'm just going to continue to post stuff that turns me on.
Otherwise... I might as well start posting meatloaf recipes.. right? lol 😁🍞ðŸē


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 6:48 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I'm probably not the person to ask about the success or failure of a D/s post. I am toasted white bread - metaphorically speaking.

    I can tell you that time of day makes a difference. Titles make a difference. The questions you ask make a difference.

    Of course, it's possible, that the story stimulated some hand action other than fingers on keyboard.
You're right though... The Question, the Title, the Time...
But I'll say that things in general in blogville have really slowed down a lot. Less new posts, less comments, less viewers... Less interest? Who knows.
All I know is that you're here... and that's fine with me. 😊
Meatloaf recipe? And I'll post naked pics of me cooking the stuff? Wanna come over and help me mix up a batch? 😁


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/22/2019 9:49 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I've been on the Dom and sub side of things. I really enjoy both sides. It certainly inspires a tingling in my brain. You'd be gentle, right? ðŸ˜ąðŸ˜˜
    My safe word is "monkey" 🐒
It’s fun to ‘switch’ things up. Keeps things fresh, interesting and tingling. Of course I would be gentle-that’s the way I like it too.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/22/2019 9:57 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I tried posting this story at 2 different times with 2 different titles... FAIL on both attempts. ðŸĪ”
    So perhaps blog ville residents are not really as sexed up as they pretend to be? hmmm.. ðŸ˜ķ
    I mean this story is hot.... ðŸ”Ĩ
    I'm not going to soften things up. It's a story about a Domme. I've concluded that I'm just going to continue to post stuff that turns me on.
    Otherwise... I might as well start posting meatloaf recipes.. right? lol 😁🍞ðŸē
Agree- the story is sizzling hot ðŸ”Ĩ One I could imagine being a part of too.
It’s your space to fill as you like. Never compromise who you are for the sake of maybe a few more watchers or comments. Often there’s no rhyme or reason as to what invokes responses. Do your own thing and be proud of it.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 10:02 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    It’s fun to ‘switch’ things up. Keeps things fresh, interesting and tingling. Of course I would be gentle-that’s the way I like it too.
That's good to know... lol 😁


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 10:05 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Agree- the story is sizzling hot ðŸ”Ĩ One I could imagine being a part of too.
    It’s your space to fill as you like. Never compromise who you are for the sake of maybe a few more watchers or comments. Often there’s no rhyme or reason as to what invokes responses. Do your own thing and be proud of it.
Well.. I softened the title a bit. Perhaps the word Domme freaked people out. It's a baby Domme story, at best.ðŸ‘ķ
Thanks for your support. 😘


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
3/22/2019 4:58 pm

I'm a switch. But not particularly submissive. I enjoy being spanked or flogged, just for the physical sensations, but no one's going to get away with trying something silly like making me count the number of blows or call him Master.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 5:23 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    I'm a switch. But not particularly submissive. I enjoy being spanked or flogged, just for the physical sensations, but no one's going to get away with trying something silly like making me count the number of blows or call him Master.
You're a pro....
I think, I'm s switch as well... This is baby stuff, right? I mean in terms of Domme stuff.
I'm exploring this thing. I find it totally intriguing and it trips me out... lol
I guess, I'm a newbie. You'd be gentle, right? ðŸĪ”
Or... I'd just let you do what you wanted. How far would that go? Would we talk before hand?


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
3/22/2019 8:37 pm

awww...well that was nice...but i am a sub...so i wanna see how YOU take me as a dom...mmMMmmm...yes, please, sir?


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/22/2019 10:37 pm

    Quoting japaneseass:
    awww...well that was nice...but i am a sub...so i wanna see how YOU take me as a dom...mmMMmmm...yes, please, sir?
Hmmm. Sure. I can do that. We'd start with a blindfold and I'd tie you to the bed with nylon stockings. You'd have to keep your legs spread and keep still... Shhh... No wiggling. I haven't even started yet. I'd wait to see your toes curl... then I'd have to stop..... Hmmm... Did you know your little friend twitch, when it's really excited?
Can you get any wetter? Nice.... 😘âĪïļðŸ˜ Hold still...


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
3/23/2019 4:56 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Hmmm. Sure. I can do that. We'd start with a blindfold and I'd tie you to the bed with nylon stockings. You'd have to keep your legs spread and keep still... Shhh... No wiggling. I haven't even started yet. I'd wait to see your toes curl... then I'd have to stop..... Hmmm... Did you know your little friend twitch, when it's really excited?
    Can you get any wetter? Nice.... 😘âĪïļðŸ˜ Hold still...
sir, you are already making dripping wet...of course, you are gonna now tell me not to cum, yet..mmmm


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/23/2019 8:31 am

    Quoting japaneseass:
    sir, you are already making dripping wet...of course, you are gonna now tell me not to cum, yet..mmmm
I would do more than that. Much more than that... 😘
But we're not alone here, are we? ðŸ˜ąðŸ˜


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
3/24/2019 1:54 pm

>> Would we talk before hand?

Most definitely. Negotiation is very important, asking lots of questions - especially if it's someone who you haven't played with that way before.

-What are your limits?
-What's your safe word? If you tend to go nonverbal do you have an alternative like a hand signal?
-Do you have any medical issues that I should know about?
-Any mental health issues? Things that might be a negative trigger?
-What are you hoping to get out of this scene?

Some people might say it takes the mystery out of it, but it does end up being much safer, and actually a lot more fun since it takes some of the anxiety out of it.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/24/2019 6:43 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    >> Would we talk before hand?

    Most definitely. Negotiation is very important, asking lots of questions - especially if it's someone who you haven't played with that way before.

    -What are your limits?
    -What's your safe word? If you tend to go nonverbal do you have an alternative like a hand signal?
    -Do you have any medical issues that I should know about?
    -Any mental health issues? Things that might be a negative trigger?
    -What are you hoping to get out of this scene?

    Some people might say it takes the mystery out of it, but it does end up being much safer, and actually a lot more fun since it takes some of the anxiety out of it.
Wow... seriously? It's like a fricken job interview. hmmm...
limits - no physical pain
safe word - monkey
medical issues - I'm allergic to nuts
mental health issues - uhh no. I'm average f**ked up
negative trigger - don't mention my mother, or things, will grind to a halt.
What are you hoping to get out of this scene? - Titillation, orgasm, sex... eventually...

Just thinking about it... gives me butterflies, in my stomach. But I can be a Dom, as well.... and THAT, thrills me- but in a completely, different way. Is that normal?

When I wrote this story, it tripped me out. It was based on real life experiences.

I'm sure there are people, here, who practise. I might look them up... eventually. I find it so hot... Do you get butterflies in your stomach?


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
3/24/2019 8:38 pm

And sometimes the negotiation is enough to make you walk away - which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Your answers tell me that we would not be looking for the same thing.

Your limit is no physical pain. My enjoyment in topping is delivering pain Obviously not more than a level that the person likes/can tolerate. But none whatsoever? - well, that wouldn't be a bdsm scene for me.

Your hope is to get an orgasm and/or sex...to me that isn't necessarily the focus of the scene. It could be, with someone who's a romantic partner, but it's not at all a given. I've talked about this a lot with people - most folks, who are first looking into it, look at kink as a form of foreplay, a prelude to the "main event" of having sex. But for many kinksters it can very easily be a standalone activity. That applies to me these days, seeing as I don't have a romantic partner.

I used to get butterflies, and still might get them if I'm about to scene with someone who really intrigues me. With most people, I can just relax and have fun.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/25/2019 2:02 am

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    And sometimes the negotiation is enough to make you walk away - which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

    Your answers tell me that we would not be looking for the same thing.

    Your limit is no physical pain. My enjoyment in topping is delivering pain Obviously not more than a level that the person likes/can tolerate. But none whatsoever? - well, that wouldn't be a bdsm scene for me.

    Your hope is to get an orgasm and/or sex...to me that isn't necessarily the focus of the scene. It could be, with someone who's a romantic partner, but it's not at all a given. I've talked about this a lot with people - most folks, who are first looking into it, look at kink as a form of foreplay, a prelude to the "main event" of having sex. But for many kinksters it can very easily be a standalone activity. That applies to me these days, seeing as I don't have a romantic partner.

    I used to get butterflies, and still might get them if I'm about to scene with someone who really intrigues me. With most people, I can just relax and have fun.
Hmmm... Really....?ðŸĪ”
Well.... Very interesting stuff. Deffinitely has put some perspective on the topic for me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
3/25/2019 1:39 pm

Yes very difficult to answer . So.etimes terms , labels confuse things other times they help. Prefer if Male leads, prefer brown bread 😉


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/25/2019 2:07 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    Yes very difficult to answer . So.etimes terms , labels confuse things other times they help. Prefer if Male leads, prefer brown bread 😉
Yes... I think I agree. Too many terms and labels. I'd just say... let's have fun... no? Whoever takes the lead doesn't really matter.
Although... there is something deliciously fun about teasing someone .... while their toes curl...😉
Do yours? lol... ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ą
I love... brown bread... 🍞 White Bread is just too plain, no? Have a great Monday... 👍


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
3/27/2019 11:38 am

    Quoting  :

Oooooo.. sounds like fun. I'd let you have your way with me... but then it would be my turn to watch your tiny toes curl and your woman bits quiver. That sounds like so much fun. I'd watch you shiver till you saw stars.... lol âœĻ😁😘


StrongBlakDick4U 43M
263 posts
4/1/2019 8:10 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    You had to delete and redo again? I'm sorry.

    I'm taking the easy question .... I like toasted white bread but not with jam. Apple butter. Peanut butter. Cinnamon and sugar. Honey. Not jam.
I think it's important to remember that the person who takes the lead isn't always the leader. It could be the person most atune to the desires of the other person. Although they take the lead, they are in fact the servant.


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
4/2/2019 1:01 pm

    Quoting StrongBlakDick4U:
    I think it's important to remember that the person who takes the lead isn't always the leader. It could be the person most atune to the desires of the other person. Although they take the lead, they are in fact the servant.
You make a good point. Really good point. That might be the case here, as well.
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