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WHO SHOULD PAY?  

Cuddly_Kitten 54F
15143 posts
9/5/2018 5:06 pm
WHO SHOULD PAY?

OK..... YOU ARE GOING ON A FIRST DATE....

I SCHOOL.... I BELIEVE THE MAN SHOULD ...BUT....WE ARE LIVING A DIFFERENT TIME.....

WHO SHOULD ON THE FIRST DATE
THE MAN ALWAYS PAYS FOR THE FIRST DATE
THE WOMAN SHOULD PAY
THE PERSON WHO ASKED FOR THE DATE
GO DUTCH.... EACH PAY FOR YOURSELF


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Cuddly_Kitten 54F
6354 posts
9/5/2018 5:10 pm



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tmacshane26 39M
2092 posts
9/5/2018 5:14 pm

I said each pay for yourself. I don't mind paying for both of us. Sometimes if you offer to pay for both meals then the lady will get mad and say I don't need you to pay for my meal. I have my own money and I don't want you to pay for my meal.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

9/5/2018 5:22 pm

If you invite you should expect to pay, now this is different than two people meeting at an agreed place, but to me it is a less about gender and more about being polite. Would you as a woman invite a man who you know nearly nothing about to escort you to an event that you know that you couldn't afford but wanted to attend, expecting that if he is truly interested in you he will find way to honor your wishes. Then when he politely declines something that he can not afford, even though he does want to meet you.

I don't know it feels self defeating

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bitchkitty2017 71F

9/5/2018 5:35 pm

I agree whoever asked for the date off the jump..If the man is expected to pay then the gal might see him as an easy mark and expect him to pay the expenses every time.. adults should be adults and maybe talk about it then there be no misunderstanding ...first to ask for meet and lunch should pay..


scott6250 61M

9/5/2018 5:37 pm

The man should pay on the first date.

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love2pleasu13 56M
6472 posts
9/5/2018 5:39 pm

Just be a man and pay on the first date. Then see how goes from their.


TB5758 65M/67F  
577 posts
9/5/2018 5:43 pm

The man always.


dewycooterlicker 65M  
354 posts
9/5/2018 5:58 pm

I was raised with manners, Guy always pays, hold door open etc

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Looknfind18 71M  
4379 posts
9/5/2018 6:12 pm

the guy pays although now days it might be the person who did the asking..


Horny_Cat68 55M  
582 posts
9/5/2018 6:18 pm

I always pay on dates, but that's just how I was brought up.

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lonlyforlove2 81M
32704 posts
9/5/2018 6:26 pm

the man first and if another he again, and again...be a man about it...and smile when you do..

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Yoursideguy76 47M

9/5/2018 9:23 pm

A large percentage of women will just decide the guy is cheap if he doesn’t pay. Wish it weren’t so but it is.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/6/2018 1:21 am

Go dutch, regardless of who invites who.

If Jim invites out Jane, ....what the hell would Jim be paying for? Jane works... Jane is interested in Jim, or Jane would not have accepted his invitation.


luvexotic 62M

9/6/2018 1:33 am

I'm old school and believe I should pay for both of us.


CleavageFan4U 66M
69374 posts
9/6/2018 5:56 am

I'm old school too. But if the lady INSISTS she can pay for it all - no splitting.

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69bud69 69M
7134 posts
9/6/2018 12:03 pm

Perhaps I'm old fashioned this way, I still open car doors and doors for women. So, I would never consider anyone other then myself paying for any date unless she insisted strongly. Even then, it would be up for debate. *S*

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jrfree2play 54M  
140 posts
9/6/2018 12:29 pm

I know it's more common to go dutch these days, but I'm old school and believe that the man should pay for at least the first date. Then I guess after the first date, the two can decide to go dutch or trade off.


Sexczy69 70M  
3703 posts
9/6/2018 4:51 pm

If I asked out? I will let the other person pay but I will pay for both of us if she lets me! That will be her call...


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/6/2018 5:18 pm

The Boston Globe Magazine asked the same question...."Do you think men should still be paying for women on dates".

46% said "Yes"
12% said "No"
42% said "They should split it"

Going on a first "intended" date...... What does that mean? It means the male wants to have sex with the female , so he invites the woman out to dinner [when really he reasonably could have just invited the woman to his bed]. Still a "Yes" or "No" response is expected from the woman.

A woman being invited to dinner, because the man fears inviting the woman to his bed, is now allowed to insist he pays money for the company of the woman at his table, and not his bed.

Are women who insist on men paying for food [and drink] for her, Narcissist?

Women don't want to go back to a traditionalist society, so women are encouraged to succeed, and progress , but insist the men behave as before, hold him back, make him pretend he's being "Old school", isn't that making the man obsolete in todays social environment? If so, then this is no longer about "Equal opportunity" , instead, its about squashing men and elevating women.


JimmyB7474 59M

9/7/2018 10:12 am

My Time, My Dime. Nuff Said. Jimmy B.

My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/7/2018 12:03 pm

    Quoting JimmyB7474:
    My Time, My Dime. Nuff Said. Jimmy B.
That's right.

So we'll say you have one dime.

Wouldn't it be wiser to keep that dime, and find a woman who will do you without expecting that dime to be thrown away on her?

Your dime? If you spend that dime, and she doesn't put out.... you have no dime. So now no power.

The idea is to attract the woman with your dime.... not spend it on her.


zeke53028 65M  
1135 posts
9/7/2018 6:23 pm

I'm old school, I want to pay. And I want to pay most of the time. I've been in my current relationship for a few years now and I still feel I should. On occasion Vicki will or if she comes over and stops at the store to pick something up she'll pay but I always ask if I reimburse her.


cumboi65 72M

9/8/2018 2:08 am

It is only gentlemanly to cover ll expenses on a first date unless you make arrangements before hand.


SexFantasyChat1 54M

9/8/2018 6:35 pm

Depends on who asks whom out.


JimmyB7474 59M

9/10/2018 4:38 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    That's right.

    So we'll say you have one dime.

    Wouldn't it be wiser to keep that dime, and find a woman who will do you without expecting that dime to be thrown away on her?

    Your dime? If you spend that dime, and she doesn't put out.... you have no dime. So now no power.

    The idea is to attract the woman with your dime.... not spend it on her.
Personally I wouldn't want my dime to be the reason a woman wanted me. Money spent on entertainment (food, drinks, movie, whatever) isn't power. The power to attract a woman has nothing to do with money. If it does then you are with the wrong woman my friend. "putting out" is a factor of chemistry not economics in my book. And yes I have never "paid" for sex other than picking up the tab for the date. If she makes love to me it's not because of my wallet. Jimmy B.

My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.


Ahenry008 73M

9/11/2018 6:37 am

Old school...the man


vince8689 35M
17 posts
9/11/2018 2:08 pm

the man


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/11/2018 7:43 pm

    Quoting JimmyB7474:
    Personally I wouldn't want my dime to be the reason a woman wanted me. Money spent on entertainment (food, drinks, movie, whatever) isn't power. The power to attract a woman has nothing to do with money. If it does then you are with the wrong woman my friend. "putting out" is a factor of chemistry not economics in my book. And yes I have never "paid" for sex other than picking up the tab for the date. If she makes love to me it's not because of my wallet. Jimmy B.
Personally I wouldn't want my dime to be the reason a woman wanted me. ... Yes, a lot of men feel that way, but a mans income determines if he can get the woman he really wants, or is forced to accept less that what he would want, or end up with no mate.

Money spent on entertainment (food, drinks, movie, whatever) isn't power..... True... Money spent [picking up a her tab] is power thrown away.

The power to attract a woman has nothing to do with money....You are so wrong. The more money a man has, the more women he is able to attract. A man with no money, is a teenager or twenty something, he attracts women based on his virility, but can't keep them. As longs a woman has her youthful and fertile appearance she can trade up more easily. Women trade up to a more accomplished male. IF SHE HAS THE LOOKS to make a trade up.

When a trade up can't happen [for either the female or male] is when the male gets married to the first girl who gives him pussy, she's not a "Looker", he doesn't amount to anything professionally, so neither , in their older years can do any attracting for a trade up.

If it does then you are with the wrong woman my friend..... Alright, we'll say you're right....then for one year, Sept 2018 to Sept 2019, you only pay for food , drink and entertainment for yourself. Any woman you go out with, pays her own way.
If money is not the issue of whether or not a woman goes out with you, then all these women will accept paying for her food, drink and entertainment.

"putting out" is a factor of chemistry not economics in my book..... Okay, see how many women putout for you , when you tell them you don't have the money to pay their way.

Very different from telling a woman, "I have the money, but you pay for your own food, drink and entertainment". She calls that man an ass, because she wants men to pay her way....but she will likely still go to bed with him even though he doesn't pay her way, because she knows he has money.

"Putting out" IS a factor of chemistry, agreed. Because we see males with no money, to speak of , get laid.....but these males are teens and twenty somethings.
They are virile young men, and some show potential to make money. Those young males who don't show potential, however who are also very virile... will get dumped the most for a male who can amount to something. [hopefully before she gets pregnant].

When you are a male over 30 [we'll say], then a woman's decision to "Putout" with a particular man, is more about economics. Most women don't want to "Putout" for losers.

And yes I have never "paid" for sex other than picking up the tab for the date.... Then you "paid" for sex [if you had sex].

And if you didn't have sex, you did not have a date.... you "paid" for some woman to keep you company [an escort], while hanging out.

Today, if she is the right [or decent] woman, she will pay her own way, and have sex with you because you are you, and you are wise with your money. Women don't want to fuck up her credit rating by getting involved with a loser, so you can't expect a woman [unless she's a loser] to be all over a man [older than teens and twenties] with no money.

If she makes love to me it's not because of my wallet.... Actually she does have sex with you based on how financially secure you are, at your age.


JimmyB7474 59M

9/12/2018 4:51 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Personally I wouldn't want my dime to be the reason a woman wanted me. ... Yes, a lot of men feel that way, but a mans income determines if he can get the woman he really wants, or is forced to accept less that what he would want, or end up with no mate.

    Money spent on entertainment (food, drinks, movie, whatever) isn't power..... True... Money spent [picking up a her tab] is power thrown away.

    The power to attract a woman has nothing to do with money....You are so wrong. The more money a man has, the more women he is able to attract. A man with no money, is a teenager or twenty something, he attracts women based on his virility, but can't keep them. As longs a woman has her youthful and fertile appearance she can trade up more easily. Women trade up to a more accomplished male. IF SHE HAS THE LOOKS to make a trade up.

    When a trade up can't happen [for either the female or male] is when the male gets married to the first girl who gives him pussy, she's not a "Looker", he doesn't amount to anything professionally, so neither , in their older years can do any attracting for a trade up.

    If it does then you are with the wrong woman my friend..... Alright, we'll say you're right....then for one year, Sept 2018 to Sept 2019, you only pay for food , drink and entertainment for yourself. Any woman you go out with, pays her own way.
    If money is not the issue of whether or not a woman goes out with you, then all these women will accept paying for her food, drink and entertainment.

    "putting out" is a factor of chemistry not economics in my book..... Okay, see how many women putout for you , when you tell them you don't have the money to pay their way.

    Very different from telling a woman, "I have the money, but you pay for your own food, drink and entertainment". She calls that man an ass, because she wants men to pay her way....but she will likely still go to bed with him even though he doesn't pay her way, because she knows he has money.

    "Putting out" IS a factor of chemistry, agreed. Because we see males with no money, to speak of , get laid.....but these males are teens and twenty somethings.
    They are virile young men, and some show potential to make money. Those young males who don't show potential, however who are also very virile... will get dumped the most for a male who can amount to something. [hopefully before she gets pregnant].

    When you are a male over 30 [we'll say], then a woman's decision to "Putout" with a particular man, is more about economics. Most women don't want to "Putout" for losers.

    And yes I have never "paid" for sex other than picking up the tab for the date.... Then you "paid" for sex [if you had sex].

    And if you didn't have sex, you did not have a date.... you "paid" for some woman to keep you company [an escort], while hanging out.

    Today, if she is the right [or decent] woman, she will pay her own way, and have sex with you because you are you, and you are wise with your money. Women don't want to fuck up her credit rating by getting involved with a loser, so you can't expect a woman [unless she's a loser] to be all over a man [older than teens and twenties] with no money.

    If she makes love to me it's not because of my wallet.... Actually she does have sex with you based on how financially secure you are, at your age.
Good points. Except they do not apply to me. Money is not important to me. Never has been and (god willing) never will be. Paying for a date is just good manners. I was raised "old school" when it comes to women. Opening doors, pedestals and all that. That's me. Some women HATE that attitude. I have found through the years many women actually enjoy the extra effort (not money) I go through in my many relationships. Jimmy B.

My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.


rick315875 65M

9/12/2018 8:57 am

I'm a spoiled little brat I never pay


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
9/12/2018 12:13 pm

    Quoting JimmyB7474:
    Good points. Except they do not apply to me. Money is not important to me. Never has been and (god willing) never will be. Paying for a date is just good manners. I was raised "old school" when it comes to women. Opening doors, pedestals and all that. That's me. Some women HATE that attitude. I have found through the years many women actually enjoy the extra effort (not money) I go through in my many relationships. Jimmy B.
Paying for a date is just good manners ..... Says who , or what? ..When?

I was raised "old school" when it comes to women. .... Did you ever think to ask, "Why the fuck should I do that". ...Your parents were wrong, or maybe you misunderstood, after all you were only a child. They could see what was going on in the 70s, the woman's fight for social equality.
Perhaps your dad told you one thing, but his actions [since he was raised in the 30s] told you another. And you got confused.

If you were actually, on purpose, raised old school, then your woman is not allowed to get a job. You do not allow her to vote. You are the final authority in the household. Your woman keeps your clothes cleaned and pressed, and she cooks your breakfast everyday, prepares your lunch everyday, and always cooks your dinner and haves it warm and ready to eat upon your return home. You would insist on that.

If you were raised "Old school", then you have to be completely "Old school". You would demand of your women to behave in the "Old fashion".

To combine "Old school" with "New school" , makes you look foolish.

Some women HATE that attitude. ... No doubt. You won't allow your woman to make a move without your approval.

I have found through the years many women actually enjoy the extra effort ...Well sure they would. She knows she's hooked a fool.

She can get an education, she can earn a paycheck, save all her money, she can run a company, she can command in the Armed Services, she can run for President of the US, .....but then here's you, and the men like you, skipping around opening doors, behaving like houseboys, and also paying for the woman's food, drink and entertainment, and maybe, too, paying for her house, paying for her clothes , and maybe paying for her car.

If you are 100 percent "Old school"... then I respect that, and you keep your woman in line.
But if you are "Old school" only to do certain things... then you're a fool, and telling your woman you are socially inferior to her.


JimmyB7474 59M

9/13/2018 1:17 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    The Boston Globe Magazine asked the same question...."Do you think men should still be paying for women on dates".

    46% said "Yes"
    12% said "No"
    42% said "They should split it"

    Going on a first "intended" date...... What does that mean? It means the male wants to have sex with the female , so he invites the woman out to dinner [when really he reasonably could have just invited the woman to his bed]. Still a "Yes" or "No" response is expected from the woman.

    A woman being invited to dinner, because the man fears inviting the woman to his bed, is now allowed to insist he pays money for the company of the woman at his table, and not his bed.

    Are women who insist on men paying for food [and drink] for her, Narcissist?

    Women don't want to go back to a traditionalist society, so women are encouraged to succeed, and progress , but insist the men behave as before, hold him back, make him pretend he's being "Old school", isn't that making the man obsolete in todays social environment? If so, then this is no longer about "Equal opportunity" , instead, its about squashing men and elevating women.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH~! Majority rules. Thanks for proving my point. And I said old school not ancient school. Taken literally OLD SCHOOL could mean knuckle dragging, club using, cave man. I was taught to respect people that deserve it which includes women as well as men. You and I have different values and that's cool. Makes the world a more interesting place. How boring would it be if everyone were the same? Have a great day Heathen_G

My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.


Timeforfun06 61M

9/15/2018 3:44 am

I always pay on the first date. Like many here, call me old fashioned!


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