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8/13/2020 10:25 am |
Personally I pretty much assume that people who have no pictures, or too good to be true pictures, being that when I could send messages I only made the attempt with women, are not serious about meeting. There is nothing wrong with that, especially if you come out and say so, but as unrealistic as the plan might have been, I was really trying to meet some exciting women. Not that there was ever much hope of that, but I figured what the heck, give it a try. That it was an abysmal failure I am certain shocked no one, but the point is if they are serious enough about meeting in person to actually show up, they are serious enough to present a picture of who (themselves) they are trying to get people to meet. I understand many people for their own reasons, all of them good ones, prefer to be discreet, but it takes close to no creativity to give a truly clear idea about the sort of person you are with revealing exactly who you are. You know when someone gets disappointed about people finding things to decline to meet them about based on their appearance, they might not feel very much like it at the moment, but they are doing you a kindness. Would you rather be told. I am sorry you are not someone I can see myself fucking, as amazing a person as your mother says you are, or have someone just end things out of blue when you thought they were great, and you wonder what you did, when really you hadn't changed or done anything and your ex lover was just being "nice" Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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I met one that had body shots posted i asked for a face pic and got one....NEEDLESS TO SAY the pics posted were NOT his body and THE FACE PIC was definately not him I WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM ONE BIT BUT WAS STUCK IN HIS SHIT HOLE APARTMENT FOR 5 DAYS....Once i returned home i got a friend to do some digging turns out EVERYTHING WAS A LIE... plus i also found out why he never showered in those 5 days and even slept with his SWEATS ON.... turns out he was on HOUSE ARREST AND HAD AN ANKLE MONITOR ON HIM TRUE STORY LALA....Lesson Learned...On the bright side My Mr Florida was hotter in person than his pics and i still have a really good relationship with him for over 2 years now...Will definately Visit Him as soon as this COVID settles down Visit my [blogonelastchan00] to enter my[post4439715]
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If I was going to meet then I would want to see a picture, I have spoken to guys on here with no pic and continue to do so. I AM curious as to what people look like, but then if they don't meet my expectations, I would be disappointed, even if I wasn't meeting them, so I don't ask for one. Back in the day, there used to be blind dates, where mutual friends or acquaintances would set people up on a date, but that was back in the good 'ol days when people went to the pub or the back row of the pictures for their date.... I can't believe anyone would meet for sex without seeing someones face... but then men have asked me to meet in hotel rooms, or have a coffee without seeing me... that's not going to happen... I want them to see what they're getting.. for good or bad!
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Welll, I finally got through ALL the ramblin and excessive punctuation and to the question. I think I deserve a prize or somethin. Profiles with pics aren't all that better. My first 2 meets had pics that failed to match the current person. First woman resembles Valerie Bertinelli - the woman who showed up looked like she had eaten Valerie Bertinelli (not in the good way). Second had a pic of her and her daughter. Sadly the daughter had died 20 years prior to me meeting the woman. Disclaimer: my pics are years old now and my hair is a lighter shade of brownish/greyish, but I have mentioned it onmy profile. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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It's always a good idea to see pictures of someone, especially if you are planning on meeting them. I absolutely don't want to see a dick picture as it really makes me think they think that's their best asset!! I would prefer a chest picture, a mystery picture of some kind, or a face picture.. I don't personally think a mans dick is his best asset, his mind is what is sexy to me and how he treats me. And I have to say since you asked, YES it is possible to fall in love with someone never seeing a picture of them. And by the time you do you think WOW that's not someone I would be attracted to. So I guess it depends on the person and what they find that is first and foremost the most important thing to them. I sure hope you get some thrills today for thrilling Thursday hun.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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Now you see me, Two?  As someone whose profile pic is the top two thirds of my legs, in a kilt, I'm not too fussy if the initial exchanges don't include photos. In fact, I'm more interested in whether the girl can converse, initially at least. Photos can follow once I know/trust the lady. And I'd never expect or ask for photos, the timescale for that is up to the girl. Of course, that doesn't mean I'd be a bit suspicious if the girl still hadn't sent me a photo after 2 years of messaging.......  How much time depends on the exchange, the banter, the ongoing interest, and of course the dreaded C19! Early on, I met a lady without seeing a face pic. She had some alluring partial body shots of her in lingerie........so, 'wey hey' thinks I, here we go, and after a brief exchange off I trot to meet her. Well, she was much bigger than I expected, horizontally I mean, which is never a problem for me, though on this occasion I was misled about size. She was also at least 10 years older than she claimed, at least! Probably more. But the bigger problem was that she couldn't walk without a stick........again, no biggie really, if the lady is honest about it. So aye, lesson learned, never again........
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I have no pics posted, those are reserved for those that i intend to meet...and by the time i share them we have graduated to personal email or texts. My feeling is there is no sense in having pics out there with some random. I always talk and get to know a person before deciding if there is enough chemistry to meet. I also use this vetting method to try and weed out the crazies. So , no...ive never met without a pic...cant say if i ever would. We would have to have an exceptional connection for that to happen. That is the reason i dont ask for a pic tho....i prefer to get to know a person before becoming over ( or under ) whelmed by their physicality. The physical self is always in transition, whats inside tends to endure. I must add tho, i am also not looking for just a sex only thing . No easy road to navigate thru all this LaLa ~~
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Since there are no face pics on my profile I always make sure to send a few with my very first email. It's not that I am damn good looking I figure this will seal the deal (those that have met me KNOW that's not true) but I see doing so is a gesture of sincerity and trust. I don't even look at "ghost women" profiles. Perhaps that is my loss, but I ASSume they lack sincerity/commitment to meeting. We All Scream for Ice Cream, on HNW Top Ten Reasons to Have Sex with a Retiree The Rule of Threes and Good Riddance July 2020 [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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-Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? I'm pretty sure it happened early on in my tenure here (when I was naive and trusting lol). I remember the first guy who I met, told me "I'll be wearing an Indiana Jones hat". I should have backed away at that moment.-If you personally met them, how did things turn out, or how many times were you both mutually attracted? In that particular situation, he was not a bad looking guy, but his personality was horrible. -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? At this point in time, I suppose if someone were absolutely fascinating either in messaging or on their blog, I would meet them for coffee knowing that I'd enjoy chatting with them regardless of whether there was any interest. I dunno though - even in that situation, it would be strange if they weren't willing to provide a face picture so that I could recognize them when we met up. -How much time do you invest in getting to know them before asking for pics? I would want to see a face picture within a couple of messages. I don't have the patience to go on and on chatting, only to realize that physically they don't appeal to me. Again...blogging kind of gets around this as you can have a lot of interactions before ever even assuming that meeting in person might be in the cards.   
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I met my husband on a blind date. Of course, we were set up by mutual friends. And it was almost 30 years ago. But I never even asked my friends for a description because I didn't want to be 'shallow'. Since doing online dating, I have met 'sight unseen'. Not often, though. I ask for a picture before meeting so that I will recognize them. No other reason. A picture doesn't guarantee attraction.....like the guy with a nice looking (recent and accurate) picture but his smile was close lipped and for a very good reason. (rotted teeth)  amp;My profile has always had a current face picture. No one has to worry about recognizing me when we meet. If someone asks me for sexy pictures then I shut 'em down ....cuz those fellas generally are shallow. (do you like how I did that) Can I go back in hiding now? Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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-Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? (To be clear: "personally" means...in person. Not this 'online met' shit.) Only other bloggers and then only a handful of times out of the two dozen bloggers I've met. It doesn't matter then, but I'd never meet someone who I was interested in vetting for a playmate without seeing pics of at least their face first. -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? Pigs to fly. There's no point in meeting someone without knowing what they look like for me. I don't consider it shallow, there's more to attraction than looks but to deny that looks play a part is disingenuous. -How much time do you invest getting to know them before asking for pics? I don't ask for pics. I state in my profile that I prefer a man to have pics on his profile or to send one (non identifying, a body shot is preferred) with his initial email. If he can't do that, I don't really have a good reason to reply in the first place. If he can, and the convo continues, I'll request a face selfie from him within a few exchanges.
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I have met local people several times without a picture of them, but just like people I meet that do have clear pictures, there's no expectations beyond meeting and talking first to see if there is a mutual attraction. If I'm actually traveling somewhere to meet someone? YEs I want a picture, if anything to recognize them, not so much to determine if there's an attraction, just that they are genuine.
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i only met one guy who did not have any photo posted. he was married, and could not leave any trace of him on the site, but when i asked him to produce a photo, he did. then, before meeting take place, I asked him to turn on his cam, so i can see his photo is legit about him. but this is only exception. nowadays, i won't even consider reading emails, if the person don't have any photos up on his profile. why bother... what's up with that tho? i see more and more like that. and plus, not much information filled either. are they that lazy?
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It's reasonable to assume that a number of people on this site don't wish to show faces but showing nothing is unreasonable. I've not met anyone that were 'invisible' to me. 
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Since there are no face pics on my profile I always make sure to send a few with my very first email. It's not that I am damn good looking I figure this will seal the deal (those that have met me KNOW that's not true) but I see doing so is a gesture of sincerity and trust. I don't even look at "ghost women" profiles. Perhaps that is my loss, but I ASSume they lack sincerity/commitment to meeting. We All Scream for Ice Cream, on HNW Top Ten Reasons to Have Sex with a Retiree The Rule of Threes and Good Riddance July 2020 [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets Yes, Lala, I don't have a picture posted, and it's stated in my profile that I won't post one. But I've met a number of people off this site. Friends with a couple of them for more than 3 years now. And I've even met with someone who did not have a picture posted. I don't demand...or even ask...for pictures from someone else, especially since I don't have one of my own posted. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Yes, I did meet somone without a pic. It was my first, my last and my only time. Yikes. 
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Nope, never have, never will. I have pictures (some old, but others more current, (IE within the last year), a pretty accurate description of myself, and even my correct age on my profile. I expect at least one picture, and that one better not be just of his junk. I know what a penis looks like already. They are like weeds here I am the only Me you get.
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No, I've never met anyone I didn't know what they looked like. I've only met a handful of women from the site. They range from a FWB who I'm still in regular contact with but we're not intimate with each any more, to someone I met for a coffee and never heard from her again once we left - I must have left a great impression there! I deliberately don't have a face pic on my profile as I'm not particularly interested in meeting from the site any more. However if I were to get to know someone in the chatroom and things look interesting, I'd have no issues sending a face pic if I was asked for one. I'd probably have a few chats before asking for a face pic, although I'd probably let them ask me first then we can swap. But if the conversation is interesting enough then I'd possibly be more interested in the conversation than what they actually looked like.
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OK Cleavage, I'm calling you out on the part about not looking at "ghost women" profiles. I don't have a picture posted and yet we met! lol Yes, Lala, I don't have a picture posted, and it's stated in my profile that I won't post one. But I've met a number of people off this site. Friends with a couple of them for more than 3 years now. And I've even met with someone who did not have a picture posted. I don't demand...or even ask...for pictures from someone else, especially since I don't have one of my own posted. Flashback Friday Volume 4 Cumming from Nipple Play We All Scream for Ice Cream, on HNW Top Ten Reasons to Have Sex with a Retiree [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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Quoting Lala: Ahem...this makes me wonder: -Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? (To be clear: "personally" means...in person. Not this 'online met' shit.) -If you personally met them, how did things turn out, or how many times were you both mutually attracted? -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? -How much time do you invest getting to know them before asking for pics? You make some very good points, and I think that some of the 'rules' may be different for men than women (unfortunately) I for one have met people from the site before having never seen their picture, however I did have many long conversations prior to actually meeting including exchanging phone numbers so I didn't really need to see a picture. But I guess that's just me, or I got lucky. So with me, I take my time getting to know a person before I even ask to meet. I want to know if we are a 'match' or not. Sometimes I want to meet them because I just find them interesting, even though we may not be a 'match' to frolic with.
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Young Lady, Like Redrock, after the dust settled down from the running around you did, I finally seen the light!!! You almost know what I am going to write , but I will any way. 1-Have I ever met some one with out photos?..NO, the ones I have personally seen , I had real photos and they had mine.. 2- When you met how did it turn out?.I can say the ones I have had the fortunate pleasure to meet, all were very nice, some just had a very different outlook on life than I , The last one has been by my side now for almost 5 years.. And her photos really did not do her justice.. Pictures are important, given information on the profile is important. the ability to communicate is of most importance. I have met several from these sites, None were even considered with out good photos, texts , and some knowledge of who she is, where she is and why.. The same holds true, she had real photos of me, knew who I was , where I am and why.. Some just didn't fit from either side, but one was a keeper. Photos and knowledge before one meets in person, real photos. are at the top of the list. TIME?? I am not sure this is important, I have more time than any thing else, weeks, months; as long as there is something to keep the connection going. I find patience to be as good as any thing else one can possess I came on here with uncertainty and curiosity not really knowing what to expect, and it did take me a while but I think success is a good word to use here for me.. I have met a lot "online" ; messages, CAM chat, Text, email and even Skype, have allowed me to get to know some of these nice ladies but only at a distance..I continue to find friends, It makes life good. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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In my younger days... I met a couple women from online dating sites that did not post or send pictures before I met them. They peaked my interest with what they said in a series of messages & emails, how they said it, and obviously being honest and sincere. They were humorous & real. Neither turned out to be "Boris Karloff" in looks or attitude. I dated one for over 2 years, the other just wasn't looking for me. I guess, going back to your older blog, I was looking for a "quality" woman. To me, that equates to honesty & respect. Everything else is just Jell-O... and there's ALWAYS room for Jell-O.
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-Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? (To be clear: "personally" means...in person. Not this 'online met' shit.) No. I've posted my pics, albeit a bit "old", and aside from my hair color, nothing has changed. -If you personally met them, how did things turn out, or how many times were you both mutually attracted? Things turned out great, I guess I/we both got lucky.  Though this covid stuff has made it a bit of a challenge, we still talk on the phone. -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? I have emailed/talked on the phone/texted a few here and there, but I don't meet without seeing at least one picture first, preferably of face and clothed body. Too many guys in the past have turned out to NOT be who they say they are, and this to me is being dishonest. -How much time do you invest getting to know them before asking for pics? My ice breaker and the first few lines of my profile state to "please have a face picture without sunglasses on", and "no pics of genitals in first contact message". Of the few who don't have a picture at all anywhere on their profile... it's a big grey area. *Most* of them are just looking for a quick fix, and their message(s) reflect that. I pass those ones by. However, there have been a few who've taken the time to actually read my profile, and know how to construct a message that piques my interest. After, say somewhere around six messages back and forth, if he hasn't volunteered the pic, I'll ask for it. If he balks after that point, it's a no-go; my interest wanes afterward. "Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.
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Well I've removed all profile and private pics and have no qualms in women not being interested in speaking to me or meeting me I have met from here one woman who had no profile pic as well as some where the full face and body weren't seen Looks fade and bodies age and obviously that applies to me doubly so and I try to avoid being too superficial as other things are just as important at building chemistry and connection, though we all have outer limits beyond which we think, no not doing anything for me. Years ago on here I recall exchanges on female blogger page about guys who don't actually push for pics of the women meaning the men weren't fussy and just wanted to shag anything. You can't win at times But I've written off women for now so in the mindset of not giving a toss how my lack of profile is perceived as I have no intention of putting them back up or replacing them with new ones.
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-Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? Yes but that was back when it was common to actually meet people. I know that sounds facetious but I don't know of a lot of that going on nowadays. -If you personally met them, how did things turn out, or how many times were you both mutually attracted? It happened twice. Once it turned out fine and we dated for while. The other time it was a disaster but not because of physical attraction. The woman was late to our date and told me to wait for her in the bar of the restaurant. The bartender asked me if I was waiting for someone and I told her yes but it was an online thing and we hadn't actually seen each other. This led to several horror stories from her about similar dates and other funny stories from both of us about online dating in general. When my "date" showed up she asked me point blank if I still wanted to have dinner or if I was going to pick up the bartender instead. You can't make this stuff up. We tried to have dinner after that as she calmed down and I figured it would be the polite thing to do until the bartender sent a beer over with the waiter. This was followed by my "date" slamming her menu on the table and leaving as she exclaimed "I KNEW IT". -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? Truly feeling a connection of some sort through our writing back and forth. I have someone I correspond with now that I am quite attracted to but we haven't actually seen facial pictures. I would meet her in a heartbeat given the chance. -How much time do you invest getting to know them before asking for pics? So far..... a couple of years. I'll let you know if/when that changes or progresses.... smile....
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Quoting Miss Lala...... "BiggLala replies on 8/17/2020 11:09 pm: Ya'll keep ganging up on me about my rambling...I'm telling on both of you. I have to say that SHE is the lucky one. I'm still smitten. You are definitely a success story. We should all be so fortunate to find what we're looking for (I don't have hope for that myself, though) *** (I don't have hope for that myself, though)*** Young lady, never sell yourself short, I know you are a beautiful young lady inside and out.. Never even think of giving up, there is always a "next" . You are still young, healthy and very attractive . Go for it with your all..  And if you want to ramble for another post, I will be right there to unscramble it, so have at it.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I'm gutted, nay, distraught, nay, really really upset McBiggles.......how could ye??  Ye never even noticed that I actually answered the question you asked for the first time ever!! All that stuff about snogging me......lies! ps - what McLone said, though he puts it much more eloquently than I ever could! xxx
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8/20/2020 7:12 am |
Some people should really look into their employment contracts. Many states right to work states have clauses about morality and you could be terminate if your photo got out to the wrong individual. we proceed with caution with posting our faces. we prefer dialogue before sending those out
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I literally have met only one person in the LS over 15 years who did not see my face beforehand, nor I hers. When it came to the date she set for us to meet, I realized I had no idea what her face was like. I'd seen her body and she mine, but she never asked for a face pic and I didn't either. Our phone conversation was enough for both of us I guess. We knew we'd hit it off. When we did meet she was gorgeous and just as into me, and it led to a full night of nonstop sex. She's still a friend to this day. But without any pics at all, NFW. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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So sorry it has take so long to respond. My computer went nuts with the latest Windows update. These days, I'm a home-made Jell-O Puddin' Pops kind of guy.  Since I'm not a paying member anymore, I can't say I'm really looking for anyone or anything on Japanese lover.net these days. Just checking things out once in a while. But, yes, I'd still go out with someone without knowing what they looked like first. Why not? I've gone out with stunningly beautiful women who were very very ugly once you got to know them. Especially in the past 3 years of Trump and people not minding saying jaw-droppingly racist things out loud in some crowds. I've also been out with not so great looking women who were very beautiful in other ways. One of my best sexual experiences was with an average looking BBW that looked older than she was, who was a fantastic kisser and had amazing muscle control. Quite a lot of men turned her down for dates, not realizing what they were missing. She later got married and moved away.
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9/7/2020 3:37 pm |
Hi BiggLala, I like your post, it's good to reflect on this. I posted my reply below: Ahem...this makes me wonder: Q: Have any of you have personally met someone where you didn't know what they looked like, and/or they didn't know what you looked like? (To be clear: "personally" means...in person. Not this 'online met' shit.) A: No, never. At least I need a face pic. When I start chatting with a girl, I prefer to exchange photos, if possible in the first chat, if there is a click. If not, in the second chat. If the pic is too good to be true, the alarm goes of. Same if she doesn't want to share pics. Of course, any one can send the pic they like, true or fake, but soon enough you find out. Q: If you personally met them, how did things turn out, or how many times were you both mutually attracted? A: Usually good. With three women there was a strong mutual attraction. I have been on the site for at least 10 years. Q: -If you have never met anyone without seeing pics, what would it take for you to do it? A: Actually once I met a girl, the day after we started chatting. She looked good on the photos...stylish, pretty face, good job.And we had a nice chat. So, I thought...let's do something spontaneous and have a date. Next day we had a brunch date. When I saw her, I was like...oh...and disappointed. The pic didn't show how she really was. We still had brunch together but parted ways. Q: -How much time do you invest getting to know them before asking for pics? A: By pics you mean face pics? On one hand, I understand that you are cautious and don't want to share too fast. On the other hand, I think that when you are having a nice, normal chat, it doesn't have to take too long. For me its's first chat, share pics. Then, after a while, if you like each other, voice call, perhaps with cam. And finally meet, if we both feel comfortable about it. Depending on the person and distance, this can range from 1 week to a month. It shouldn't drag on too long.
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I agree I can't and do not consider answering or reaching out to women who have NO pic on their profile. I'm getting further fed up with what may be just 1 count 'em 1 stock photo on their profile and say they cannot read peoples messages. Usually most have little to no information about themselves, when they make a statement its something smug and I find the 'Purposeful Tourist' to be a nauseating flake Further energy/soul-sucking is having women that continue to message/solicit me outside of my preferences. I state up front that I LOVE Black women yet everyday I get profile looks/likes from women with NO profile pic and are not my choice of preference.
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