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How long do I have to wait?  

bigblackman21221 53M
394 posts
1/30/2018 5:26 pm
How long do I have to wait?


That question is mostly directed towards the female membership of this site but males feel free to comment.

How long do you expect to wait to get a reply to an email you send to a male member of this site?

I ask because I was recently blocked by a female member for apparently not answering their email fast enough. They seemed to be upset that it took me over 24 hours to respond to their two word email so they let me know about their displeasure before blocking me from responding. That's not the first time this has happened.

I asked a few female friends and associates and they told me with few exceptions that they get replies to their emails in less than an hour.

I personally expect all my emails to be answered within two hours.



bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 5:27 pm




Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
1/30/2018 5:58 pm

Some people are like that. She has a problem, not you. If you are not on here daily you might want to add it to your profile so women know. Just a suggestion. Some could still be like that one. Seen men get upset for the same reason. People of both sexes have to realize not everybody can spend a lot of time online. Also maybe their computer has problems or whatever happened.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
1/30/2018 6:00 pm

Welcome to the ever bizarre world of sex sites. Lucky for us guys there are no crazy people here.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
1/30/2018 6:01 pm

Meant to also say I know not everyone can answer within a day or so. I give men time to answer me but I will not wait days on a regular basis. Never weeks. Things happen but if it is always says ir weeks then how would he have time to meet? I don't want a ince every few months meet.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


OldrHarleyGuy 72M

1/30/2018 6:11 pm

Welcome to this site, I have sent email replies and they never reached the parties they were sent to, at the same time have received emails that were supposedly sent days before. It seems that this site decides when to pass them along and how long it takes to pass them. Also another fine trick they have is that when you log off, they hold and show you as still being on the site for several hours, so what could have been possible was this kind of time lapse took place with your emails back and forth. They have all kinds of tricks in their bags here and on their other affiliate sites to build the ranks and scam you out of money for nothing, so any of these problems may just not be as they appear.


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
1/30/2018 6:29 pm

Luckily or not this is not my full time job so I can not always respond in an hour, or 24 or even 36.... but I do respond to all messages.

If someone were to block me because I didn't respond within their own defined time frame I would be thanking my lucky stars I dodged that bullet.

Can you imagine the consequences for not responding to a text, or 5 minutes late for a date... you'd be missing a body part.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:06 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    Some people are like that. She has a problem, not you. If you are not on here daily you might want to add it to your profile so women know. Just a suggestion. Some could still be like that one. Seen men get upset for the same reason. People of both sexes have to realize not everybody can spend a lot of time online. Also maybe their computer has problems or whatever happened.
I could have answered her sooner but just didn't give a fuck.
HAHA!!!!

I could actually see the entire email without opening it. It was just two words.

I looked at her profile and wasn't remotely interested so I put her ass on ice.

I does shit like that sometimes.

Thanks for your comment.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:12 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Welcome to the ever bizarre world of sex sites. Lucky for us guys there are no crazy people here.
Us guys are always so lucky on these sex sites.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:20 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    Meant to also say I know not everyone can answer within a day or so. I give men time to answer me but I will not wait days on a regular basis. Never weeks. Things happen but if it is always says ir weeks then how would he have time to meet? I don't want a ince every few months meet.
Sometimes you can get an email but can't find it.

I recently discovered two emails from the same person that were sent in 2014 and 2015. I wasn't on the site but I had notifications that I had emails when I came back in June. That damn thing was stuck on 3 for months now I have it down to one.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:25 pm

    Quoting Brownie202:
    Meant to also say I know not everyone can answer within a day or so. I give men time to answer me but I will not wait days on a regular basis. Never weeks. Things happen but if it is always says ir weeks then how would he have time to meet? I don't want a ince every few months meet.
Oh and I just got charged again for a read receipt I requested back in October when I was a VIP.

That response took three and a half months.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:36 pm

    Quoting OldrHarleyGuy:
    Welcome to this site, I have sent email replies and they never reached the parties they were sent to, at the same time have received emails that were supposedly sent days before. It seems that this site decides when to pass them along and how long it takes to pass them. Also another fine trick they have is that when you log off, they hold and show you as still being on the site for several hours, so what could have been possible was this kind of time lapse took place with your emails back and forth. They have all kinds of tricks in their bags here and on their other affiliate sites to build the ranks and scam you out of money for nothing, so any of these problems may just not be as they appear.
I have sent email replies and they never reached the parties they were sent to

This has happened to me too but only when I was a standard member.

They have all kinds of tricks in their bags here

I do too and I use them to get back at this site for lying to me and treating me like shit when I was a standard member.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 7:48 pm

    Quoting Naughtypursuit:
    Luckily or not this is not my full time job so I can not always respond in an hour, or 24 or even 36.... but I do respond to all messages.

    If someone were to block me because I didn't respond within their own defined time frame I would be thanking my lucky stars I dodged that bullet.

    Can you imagine the consequences for not responding to a text, or 5 minutes late for a date... you'd be missing a body part.
This place can feel like a job if you spend a lot of time here.

I answer about 65 percent of my emails. Some don't require a response.

Some people on this site are very demanding in their profiles.

The problem is most members don't completely read profiles.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 9:45 pm

    Quoting  :

She is in control of clicking that block link on my profile.

I'm similar to you in the way I interact with women I just don't block them.

I mostly just block women that block me but I usually unblock them soon afterwards.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/30/2018 11:15 pm

    Quoting  :

not yet in the habit of doing read receipts

Don't get in the habit. I'm still getting dinged for emails I sent months ago when I was a VIP.

I noticed that it seems easier to contact a blogger through their blog.
I've emailed a few who I knew were very popular and didn't get a response.
Sent a similar message to their private blog post and received a book chapter as a response.

Thanks for your insight.


vopesahe 62F
36414 posts
1/31/2018 10:43 am

Some people are like that. I answer asap that means I write immediately after reading, sometimes within a few hours or the same day, sometimes even the next day and it depends on the content or who writes. I have a lot of mails daily.

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bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/31/2018 1:03 pm

    Quoting  :

I know what you mean too.

Thanks for your insight. It's always appreciated.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
1/31/2018 1:28 pm

    Quoting vopesahe:
    Some people are like that. I answer asap that means I write immediately after reading, sometimes within a few hours or the same day, sometimes even the next day and it depends on the content or who writes. I have a lot of mails daily.
Danke für deinen Kommentar sexy Frau.

Ich wusste, dass du eine beliebte Person sein würdest.

Ich bin froh, dass Sie meine E-Mails schnell beantworten.


Bigteats4u2suck 59F
141 posts
5/24/2018 7:14 pm

Me personally I try to answer all my emails as soon as I see them,, However I do not log in everyday so people just have to bear with me but I do answer each email, unless they are saying stupid s^^^,, lol I enjoy chatting with people,,


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
7/23/2018 10:09 pm

    Quoting Bigteats4u2suck:
    Me personally I try to answer all my emails as soon as I see them,, However I do not log in everyday so people just have to bear with me but I do answer each email, unless they are saying stupid s^^^,, lol I enjoy chatting with people,,
Thanks for commenting on my post. I wasn't able to respond before now.
I've been slacking lately on answering emails from people I haven't interacted with before.
Seems to be an uptick in messages from M's, T's, and C's.
As usual they didn't read my profile but I didn't make it easy.
I also noticed that you can't even see what I wrote at all if someone uses the mobile version.

Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


someonemissing4 48F
5 posts
4/5/2019 2:31 am

I have over 1,000 unread messages. I can’t possibly keep up but I try. Futility at best. I used to block the ones I have already written to say I am not interested just so they don’t keep writing me back and clogging up my inbox but even that takes time I don’t have. The main problem is that there are too many men on here and it’s diificult to sift through the messages to find someone to whom you’re attracted who actually wants to meet.


bigblackman21221 53M
4080 posts
4/5/2019 9:15 am

    Quoting someonemissing4:
    I have over 1,000 unread messages. I can’t possibly keep up but I try. Futility at best. I used to block the ones I have already written to say I am not interested just so they don’t keep writing me back and clogging up my inbox but even that takes time I don’t have. The main problem is that there are too many men on here and it’s diificult to sift through the messages to find someone to whom you’re attracted who actually wants to meet.
You can blame that beautiful, phat ass of yours.
Thanks for commenting sexy woman.


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