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How Long Before You Meet?  

tresennui 69F  
2841 posts
6/5/2018 7:08 pm

Last Read:
7/10/2018 5:53 pm

How Long Before You Meet?

You strike up a conversation emailing or text, or even talk on the phone. You feel like you are making a connection and talk about meeting. I'm one that likes to do it fairly quickly...week or two at the most. Even just to get together after work...sort of an undate...a one on one meet n' greet. If someone cannot find time for a casual get together it makes me think either they aren't that interested in meeting, they are scared to meet, getting together in the future will always be complicated even if you like each other, or they are just too busy to have anyone in their life.

Curious to find out what others, who are here (or anywhere) to actually meet prefer.
Less than a week.
One to two weeks
Three weeks to a month.
More than a month.
Completely spontaneous and meet immediately.


Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
7/10/2018 5:53 pm

You won't know it is right.....until you meet!

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


AndyNotts2000 38M

7/10/2018 5:32 am

If its right, do it as soon as possible!


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
7/6/2018 9:43 pm

    Quoting EvolvedChimp:
    I think people on these sites drag it out so it doesn’t happen. I’m on here to meet people, and if close enough I will in person
I am here to meet too. I find anyone more than 1/2 hour away (in traffic) has a difficult time getting together for the initial meet and even if you like each other...future meets. You can chat for weeks, but why, if you are looking for companionship to just be social and/or have sex?

Nothing wrong with an online relationship, if that is what you are both looking for. You have to be honest from the get go.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


EvolvedChimp 56M
3 posts
7/5/2018 6:51 pm

I think people on these sites drag it out so it doesn’t happen. I’m on here to meet people, and if close enough I will in person


Paulxx001 66M
22642 posts
7/3/2018 10:47 am

After a couple of long (1hour?), mutually entertaining conversations, I know, if I want to meet the person or not . It's not brain surgery. If I feel a good vibe from someone, and laughing and smiling, then I want to meet them as quickly as possible. Y waste each other's time? I'm equally confident face to face, as I am on the phone. If the other person is lacking that confidence, then they are probably not a match for me. Anyway.... this is what works for me...


letschataboutit9 61M

6/29/2018 12:05 am

It all depends on the comfort level. If the connection is right, at leadt do a meet and greet and see how it goes. Why stretch out the time frame.


markdaviesm 38M
13 posts
6/23/2018 6:33 pm

one month should be ok.


LadyTeddieBear 66F  
1131 posts
6/20/2018 6:28 pm

Sometimes within a week other times it could be longer. I like to chat on the phone with them usually a few times before meeting.

LadyTeddieBear


duke982000 55M
74 posts
6/15/2018 12:43 am

hot ty


Ofaceadmirer 44M

6/11/2018 4:04 am

It depends on how ow quickly the other person wants to move.

Sometime it can take a while to get schedules to line up, but no more than weeks.


biggerjim3 59M  
50 posts
6/10/2018 5:27 am

I usually don't expect to meet people from this site and over the years I've only met a handful. I am usually expecting the worst case scenario. Therefore I don't get my hopes up. That being said, the people that I have met from here have been pretty cool. For me it just takes a little more time. I'd rather spend a little more time getting to know someone here before meeting in person.

Jim


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/9/2018 8:40 pm

    Quoting  :

I too had found not only lovers, but great friends here. When I was a lot more active than I am now, I wrote this blog Unexpected Relationships on A F F.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


cozmicslirpa 58M/52F
16 posts
6/8/2018 11:15 pm

I think it depends on the person you are talking to.. do they seem to be upfront and honest...
Personally I think you need to talk to them for a couple weeks to get an idea.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
6/7/2018 9:21 pm

I prefer to meet today [same day of contact] or tomorrow, for about a half hour. That should be really easy.


ChampWashDarwin 43M
47 posts
6/7/2018 8:58 am

Usually I prefer to meet that same week, so less than a week for me. As someone has said on here, if you're online looking to find someone, then you have the time to meet for a drink or coffee and see what develops.


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/6/2018 8:54 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Generally speaking I don't go into a meet expecting a hook up. But, since this is a meeting/dating site with a more up front attitude regarding sex I am always hopeful for more than just a date.

    Subject to a few exceptions . . . IME, if you don’t get a local woman’s phone number within a couple days (a week max) of contact here you probably won’t end up meeting. If you don’t meet her within a week or so (2 weeks max) of getting her phone number you probably won’t end up meeting.
Can always count on you for an insightful comment...ones I usually agree with.😏

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/6/2018 8:52 pm

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    I like to meet within a week or two just so we don't waste each other's time if there's no chemistry. Everything looks and sounds better online, face to face is the only way to gauge chemistry. Also, like you said, if they can't make a 45 minutes happy hour happen... they obviously can't make an entire evening happen.
I have experienced what seems like a great connection being made, then when we meet...it is not so great. Best to keep the anticipation time down to a minimum, just in case.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/6/2018 8:48 pm

    Quoting Ienjoythetaste:
    I find it interesting that only men have commented on the post. Does this mean that it takes women longer to make up their minds?

    It only takes a few messages to see if there is a chance of a meet. Then the quicker the better.
I do not think lack of response reflects women's opinions, more that they do not read other women's blogs as often, and also, as we know so well, there are a lot more men on this site than women.

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
6/6/2018 6:49 pm

I'd say, upwards of over a week, it's nice to exchange a few e-mails, and having a couple of phone conversations first, kind of get a feeling of that person.


TryMeTonite40 47M

6/6/2018 9:49 am

Depends on what your looking for....quick hook up then less than a week. Long term hook up maybe less than 2 weeks.


astute2r3 68M

6/6/2018 4:38 am

A week or two feels best for me, however knowing that many have somewhat of a reluctance concerning comfort, safety, trust and other encumbrances, I enjoy meeting when the time is right and both as comfortable as two can be with a first meeting. I believe that relevant adult communication about mature topics does help bring about a more knowledgeable decision and hopefully a more enjoyable time.


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
6/6/2018 4:20 am

I like to meet within a week or two just so we don't waste each other's time if there's no chemistry. Everything looks and sounds better online, face to face is the only way to gauge chemistry. Also, like you said, if they can't make a 45 minutes happy hour happen... they obviously can't make an entire evening happen.


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
6/6/2018 3:02 am

Depends if the schedules coincide
But mainly, on the basic thing :

Mind atunemet,and attraction

Cheers my lady - P


Ienjoythetaste 75M
2560 posts
6/6/2018 2:38 am

I find it interesting that only men have commented on the post. Does this mean that it takes women longer to make up their minds?

It only takes a few messages to see if there is a chance of a meet. Then the quicker the better.

“For a moment, nothing happened. Then, after a second or so, nothing continued to happen.”
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cumboi65 72M

6/6/2018 2:05 am

I prefer to meet as soon as possible to see if he is compatible with me and I with him.
If we hit it off, great. If not, we can go our way.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
6/6/2018 1:16 am

    Quoting tresennui:
    Does it make a difference if meeting just to hook up or you are hoping for more?
On this site, a hookup is expected. If a person is hoping for more than a hookup, that's just weird. There are other kinds of sites to fulfill that goal. Go to those sties.

How Long Before You Meet? ..... Today or tomorrow. The way I see it, if you are online to find someone [sometimes using up a couple hours], then you have time to go out and meet someone for 20 or 30 minutes.

You strike up a conversation emailing or text, or even talk on the phone. .... No. You want to have a conversation? You do it in person.

If someone cannot find time for a casual get together ... They would be wasting your time.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
6/5/2018 9:35 pm

Always hoping for more. If they
haven't lost interest in the usual 2 to 3
minute window. I'd find out if
that's all their after, if yes, I'd
thank them and move on.
Desperation while the blood
is migrating south to take the point.
Is too risky!A stranger no less!

Using more than all the road!


Timetraveler2 60M  
159 posts
6/5/2018 9:04 pm

I would hope to meet within a week or two, but I would always defer to the lady, and when she feels comfortable doing so.


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
6/5/2018 8:47 pm

Depends on the schedule but if both parties are close by, then it shouldn't take too long. Less than a week just to meet in public and see if there is a spark or not.


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/5/2018 8:45 pm

    Quoting Yours_4A_knight:
    Well I know with certainty that women have no interest in me so my answer is completely academic
Who could be interested in someone who does not consider themselves interesting? We tend to believe what we read (for example, men responding to hot, horny women 1/2 their age.). If we read someone does not appeal to everyone else, we pretty much figure maybe everyone else knows something.
...Unless you are attempting humor or sarcasm. Since there is no font depicting that, how about an emoji or two?😋😏

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


nwilm4u2 68M
454 posts
6/5/2018 8:42 pm

Why would you want to draw things out?


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
6/5/2018 8:07 pm

    Quoting tresennui:
    Does it make a difference if meeting just to hook up or you are hoping for more?
Generally speaking I don't go into a meet expecting a hook up. But, since this is a meeting/dating site with a more up front attitude regarding sex I am always hopeful for more than just a date.

Subject to a few exceptions . . . IME, if you don’t get a local woman’s phone number within a couple days (a week max) of contact here you probably won’t end up meeting. If you don’t meet her within a week or so (2 weeks max) of getting her phone number you probably won’t end up meeting.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


Yours_4A_knight 59M

6/5/2018 8:05 pm

Well I know with certainty that women have no interest in me so my answer is completely academic

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


tresennui 69F  
2482 posts
6/5/2018 7:10 pm

Does it make a difference if meeting just to hook up or you are hoping for more?

Tresennui
Succumbing to Curiosity...read me at tresennui


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